I was cheated on. Now an old boyfriend wants me to meet him on a business trip. He is married. Before being cheated on, I would never have even considered it. Now I have even given it consideration. I am not going to. But don't you think that is the real problem with all of this? It encourages similar behavior?
2006-12-13 03:22:55 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it is a possibility that being cheated on gives you a desire to want to get back at the person who cheated on you, but I don't think it nessicarily makes you a "cheater"
2006-12-13 03:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being cheated on certainly gives way for similar vengeful behavior. I'm not even so sure it's a terrible thing, but I would tell you that if you were to ever cheat you shouldn't do it with another married man because you are doing to his wife what was done to you and that is not right.
2006-12-13 11:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's what I always think about when I think about cheating. I remember the day I caught the love of my life in bed with another woman, consider how my current boyfriend feels about me then, I decide if I want to make another human being feel the pain and despair I once felt. The answer is always no. Being cheated on does not encourage me to cheat. It encourages me to rethink my relationship.
2006-12-13 11:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it doesn't encourage similar behavior. If your friend committed suicide, would that make you want to go do it? Remember what it feels like to discover you are being cheated on, think about how this man's wife would feel if you were the guilty party, and then see him through different eyes. Don't be a cheater just because you think the whole world cheats. Some of us won't go there. Be one of us.
2006-12-13 11:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by Kitten Hood 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
look i have been cheated on so many times in my relationships and yes i cheated back sometimes and sometimes i didn,t.look being cheated on does make you want to cheat back but i have also realized when it is real love or true love that you hurt because they hurt you but yet you love them so much that you can give them another chance.has this happen before cause when it happens you usually start to think about all the things he could of lied about.if you feel you can,t forgive him then move on quick because the longer you stay and keep thinking of you then you ruin the future relationships ok and if you cheat then don,t cheat with someone who is already involved because you will be giving pain to another woman and hurt her the way he hurt you.
2006-12-13 11:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think it could make one more likely to cheat on their spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend. But why would you want to make another girl feel the hurt that you felt. I see revenge as more understandable than just messing up another woman's relationship.
I guess it does encourage similar behaviour any way you look at it. (for some people)
2006-12-13 11:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by artimis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't especially with a married man because as a wife that was cheated on I know how that fells. I wouldn't want to be the reason that anyone feels like that. I would never have a relationship with a married man. It isn't fair to his wife and kids. No matter what he says about them or their relationship. You should never cheat in the first place but definetly not with a married man.
2006-12-13 11:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by Ask Me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may mess with you when something like that happens. You suddenly may start to wonder well, if it was okay for them to do it why isn't it okay for me to do it? What you have to remember though is that it WASN'T okay for them to do it, and how much pain it put you through. Do you really want to do that to someone else? Also you have to remember you are better than that, and a bigger person. If you really are, then you wont go through with it. But for some people being cheated on is just an excuse to do something that they were planning to do in the first place. It depends on the person's susceptibility to being a cheater.
2006-12-13 11:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by Mary S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was cheated on, and it was hard to forgive, I will never forget. # years later we are still together. The fact that he did makes even harder to even think of cheating. I would be leas of a person if I did, I would not only have been unfaithful, It would discredit ANYTHING AND ALL I told this person about what my feelings are about people who are unfaithful, dishonest,.... I would be a hypocrite god that's the worst!!!!
2006-12-13 11:39:24 · answer #9 · answered by MJB needs help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't cheat just to "get even"! The only person you have to live with on a daily basis, is the one you apply makeup to in the morning....and you HAVE to like her! If you cheat, you will lose respect for yourself, and feel cheap, and dirty. It's NOT worth it! Stay away from this other man!! Good Luck!!
2006-12-13 11:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋