I don't want to hear "let boys be boys!" "that's just what men do!" "men are visual creatures" etc, etc. Those are excuses.
I am not a crazy fundamentalist trying to convert people, but in Matthew chapter 5 verse 28 it says:
"Everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart"
If the Bible considers ogling naked women cheating, how are so many people justifying going to strip clubs?
I really want to hear from women who think it is okay for men to go to strip clubs, particularly for bachelor parties. I don't understand how that is an appropriate way to begin your life together.
Thanks in advance for your thoughtful answers....=)
2006-12-13 03:08:00 · 34 answers · asked by Julia 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, quoting the Bible really hit a nerve with some of you! I only put that in because I heard it years ago and it has stuck with me, and because the vast majority of people get married in a church, yet are ignoring some major points about marriage that the church is based upon.
This question is not directly about me and my boyfriend, we are not even engaged (and we live together, hello, I am not a fundamentalist!!) If he went to a strip club I'd dump his *** immediately.
And to the couple people that mentioned that he goes and gets turned on at a strip club and then you get all the "benefits" when he comes home...don't you realize that he is still thinking about OTHER women when he is having sex with you? He is not making love to you at all, he is imagining that you are someone else.
2006-12-13 03:26:07 · update #1
Ignore all the ignorant jerks....every point you made I agree with completely.....and I am not some crazy fundamentalist either.....and all the women that might say you are insecure I say this to them- only an insecure woman would allow her husband to frequent strip clubs because she is afraid if she puts her foot down, she will lose him".......
A married person has NO business ogling the opposite sex with exception to their spouse....
And finally, yes, those STUPID women that say you get to reap the BENEFITS when he gets home...>DISGUSTING! I would'nt want my man with me thinking about someone else! I would rather get myself off ALONE!
I am very fortunate, I have a real man at home that respects me.
2006-12-13 03:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think you have the right be upset. But maybe he didn't know it would hurt your feelings. I personally hate strip clubs/pornography and I think it's gross when guys participate (or just watch) in it. But you can't control everything he does and I think that giving him an ultimatum of when you would see him again was not a good choice. Explain to him why you didn't like him and if he's not willing to give it up, is it something you can live with or is a deal breaker? At least he told you honestly where he was, because the only thing worse (I think) than going to a strip club is lying about it to your significant other.
2016-03-29 05:45:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had me until you had to bring the bible into it. Take the bible out of the situation and its still wrong. I'm not really sure why women have allowed this behavior for so long. I have been making this point since I was old enough to know about it. I'm sick to death of the boys will be boys crap and even more sick of the men are visual creatures bs. Women let the men do what they want when they want it. Some women even say, let him go get all hot and bothered and then come back to me. I think that is about the saddest thing to hear.
2006-12-13 03:15:04 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all not everybody believes in what the Bible says.
And no, personally I don't think its o.k. for a husband or bf to go to strip bars etc...
And I also don't think bachelor parties are o.k. either.
I would say if you marry a man who likes to do those things then you are assured that there will be infidelity.
Then there are women who are very open about their sexuality and go to strip clubs with their bf's or husband. So I am sure you will get many different answers.
It will be all be what one believes and what morals they have etc...
2006-12-13 03:14:01 · answer #4 · answered by fullofsunshine 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel one way or the other about it, to be honest. In fact, I look down more on the women who shake their asses for anybody with a dollar bill for a living. THAT is wrong. My husband doesn't go to strip clubs, and I trust that he doesn't even have any interest in it. Every bachelor party he's been invited to he has turned down.
2006-12-13 03:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by Jennalove311 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband doesn't, but that's because he thinks they're boring. Really, he does. Personally I don't think it's a problem if they do so long as the wife doesn't object. Your objection is based on your religion, and since I'm not Christian, biblical arguments don't carry much weigh on my opinions. To go to a strip club over a wife's or girlfriend's objections is showing a lack of respect for her and her feelings, but if she doesn't mind, why should he not?
2006-12-13 03:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by tabithap 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a male, I have been to various strip clubs, and NEVER, NEVER have I brought a stripper home with me. Had a harmless lunch with a friend at Apple Bee's and ended up bringing home the waitress. Strip clubs I think are safer places for men to go than places you women think are safe.
2006-12-13 03:18:55 · answer #7 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would never accept my husband doing this . Plain and simple is that ! We did go together few times with friends but he behaved and stood by my side. However, I would not accept him going alone and it's not about insecurity it's about his respect towards our relationship and me. I would feel discussed and hurt. If has the need to go to strip clubs and look and those girls so he doesn't need me. I would not be in the picture no more. He can go and get satisfied there.
2014-03-30 20:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by Justyna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is okay, but I am not religious, and my relationship is fully intact because we trust each other. I personally do not go to strip clubs, but my wife would be fine with it if I did.
It sounds like (you quoted scripture) you are a Christian. If you and your husband are Christians, then no it is not okay because it goes against your religion.
2006-12-13 03:11:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't agree with strip clubs, I view it as cheating. The only time I feel it's ok is if I go with my guy that way it's like we are exploring together and he isn't just doing it alone. That only happened once though and he hasn't wanted to go back.
2006-12-13 03:36:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋