I've been seeing this great guy for a year now and we've had our ups and downs but always sort it out. Today I confessed to a past relationship with someone he knows (not a friend or anything, he just knows him) over the phone and he says he's had enough heartache from me and can't take anymore, that I should've spoken up about it before now. But there was no reason to say anything then, Now though, the "ex" is getting married to his friend and he wanted us to attend the wedding, that's why I spoke up. He says I should leave him alone. But I do love him and I'm sorry. What should I do? I don't want to lose him and we've already started planning our future together.
2006-12-13 02:57:13 · 8 answers · asked by Grey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
your fiancee sounds jealous. and a jealous man will hear nothing you want to say while he is mad. he'll probably come back. I wouldn't have even told him about any wedding invite from an ex. he may have felt or believed that you were his and only his in all ways, this just blew his mind, and he will need time to get over it. Time is on your side and it can be hard to wait but, isn't he worth the time. when he does come back never mention the invite, the ex, unless he does. listen to what he has to say then go slowly from there. if he doesn't mention it, don't bring it up it may be one of those mysteries that never get resolved.
2006-12-13 03:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by inquiringmindswannaknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling,
Yeah maybe you should have laid all the cards open from the beginning but not everyone can handle the truth. So, in a nut shell you took a great risk and there is no need to cry over spilt milk.
He will get over it, it's just his ego talking now and you know better not to say somethings next time because he isn't matured enough spiritually to know that once God has forgiven then it's over and as long as it didn't happen whilst you two were together 9even if he did).
Don't beat yourself to death over this.
You didn't know the dude was going to get married to his friend.
You would have forgiven him, if he had something with the friend that's getting married to the dude.
Finally John 8v 7b " He that is without a sin among you, let him cast a stone at her". I'm sure he's not a virgin and for the fact that one of his escapades isn't your friend's fiance doesn't make a difference (THIS BIT IS FOR HIM).
Keep apologizing and let him now the sincerity of your heart. Your love will conquer this again. Come to think of it, it would have been weird if he just absorbed it without a little drama
2006-12-13 23:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by ithiel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you play , you pay...it's a hard lesson to learn. But how else would you expect him to respond. You are engaged and supposed to be commited to each other and you did something to break that trust. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot and he did this to you? Don't push him, don't attend the wedding and I hope you will be able to fix this, but it's going to take alot of work on your part. It doesn't sound like you're ready for marriage if you're still thinking of other guys. I think you should really think this out and be honest with yourself. Are you really ready to foresake all others for just one man? Be totally honest with yourself and don't set yourself up for failure.
2006-12-13 03:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the relationship you "confessed" to happened before you met your fiancee, I don't see what the problem is. Maybe you need to re-examine your relationship and see his possible departure as something good instead of something bad. Your fiancee needs to grow up and realize that everybody comes with a past. You don't need someone with immature hang ups.....Good Luck
2006-12-13 03:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sucks to be you, hes not your fiancee if he doesn't want you anymore, if i was you i would go to the wedding my yourself and flirt with the groom, since you were stupid enough to say something about a pass fling ,, that was dumb
2006-12-13 03:06:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him time let him cool off and than talk to him make sure that you tell him that you are very sorry that it want happen again that you love so much that you what him in your live.
2006-12-13 05:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by T-MAC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont understand what the big deal is, maybe your fiance is just immature, because there is nothing wrong with that at all, maybe there is more to it than you are telling? if not, let him go
2006-12-13 03:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by Brian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find yourself a real MAN and get on with your LIFE.
2006-12-13 03:04:46 · answer #8 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋