My husband has a child from a previous relationship and he is now faced with paying more child support. He has decided to fight the mother for full custody of his teenage daughter. The problem is that when she comes to visit, if she does not get her way she will call her mother and lie about what happened. She has gone so far as to claim abuse and my husband and I had to go to court over it. Now he is wanting to take her mother to court. I am worried that this is starting all over again. He feels like I have something against his daughter and he won't listen to me. We have a child together and I am very worried. Any advice?
2006-12-13 02:50:02 · 8 answers · asked by miss lady 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The main thing that worries me is that these abuse accusations will effect my child. If the court thinks that we are mistreating his daughter, what will they think about my son?
2006-12-13 03:09:14 · update #1
they are right, it is common. teens will pit their parents against each other over any reason just to get their way. ithey lie and manipulate terrible. have seen it countless times; some teens are worse then others. usually the court sees through this, but sometimes they do not.
as for him fighting for custody, of course he is, they all do when CS is raised. where i am from (NJ) it is raised every two years with cost of living increase. automaticly from the courts a new hearing is scheduled to see and modify.
he's willing to drag his new family through hell, just so he doesnt have to pay support? doesnt sound like much of a man to me.
i dont know how you are handling this so calmly, i would be so angry flames would be shooting out of my nose... drag'n my baby into his crap.
he's all yours, no offense, but i couldnt handle that.
here are some links that may help with CS questions, just click on your state and find the child support section/custody sections.
2006-12-14 19:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette B yvetteb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He certainly isn't listening and I am wondering if his behavior is some thing new or has he never really listened to you ?Probably the latter and these are what's meant by red flags and we women see them all the time before the the marriage,but some how we think all will be fine after the wedding when we actually married the problems as well.I don't know what you can do if these people are not interested in counseling then you should go and get some one to talk to,for I don't see this working out in the end,don't get pregnant during this difficult time because some thing tells me you won't be staying in this relationship much longer,unless you like pain.
2006-12-13 02:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No offense but this is the #1 reason I won't date men who have had children from a previous marriage and/or relationship. Blood is thicker than water and the children will (and should) always come first. When they are young, they don't understand why their parents are not together and then when they get older, they always seem to resent their parent's spouse. Life is too short to be subjected to stress like that all the time. If you want to stay with this guy, all I can say is to keep your mouth shut and let him fight his own battles with his ex.
2006-12-13 02:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by Me, Myself & I 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a bad situation, but it happens ALL the time. There is not too much you, yourself, can do about it. That's HIS past HE has to deal with. He's under enough stress and strain now, so try to stay out of it, or he'll take it out on you, even tho he won't mean to. That's the price you have to pay for getting envolved with a guy with a teenager.
2006-12-13 02:55:03 · answer #4 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not wanting to be the bearer of bad tidings, but most likely, you are going to lose....blood IS thicker than water as they say, so you're between a "rock and a hard place" so to speak. The less you can have to say in the matter, the better.....and THAT is hard to do. Best case scenario......he pays the extra child support. That's cheaper than a divorce. Good Luck!!
2006-12-13 03:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's approach too strict, should you act like that you just would free him. Just be glad he advised you glad birthday as an alternative of no longer telling you in any respect. Yes each woman desires that her boyfriend will have to be the primary to mention glad birthday however in truly lifestyles, it does not continually determine flawlessly. Just do not create a tremendous fuss over it, you do not desire to free him over whatever like this.
2016-09-03 16:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think its his daughter! She is more important to him than you are. He can always get another wife but his kids are part of him. Don't worry about her being manipulative she a teenager and they all try to do that (I have 3 daughters), she is playing you for gods sake. If she lives with you don't fall for the game she is trying to play on you.
2006-12-13 03:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by landersonjr1958 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is tuff try talking to a marriage counselor to see how to meet in the middle ♠
2006-12-13 02:55:30 · answer #8 · answered by 32606 3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋