2006-12-13 02:41:01 · 23 answers · asked by Honey W 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I find the best thing to do is just walk away. Go somewhere where you can have your own space even if its just for 5 minutes. Cry if you have to and just let it all out. Then just remember the last time he did something that made you feel special and loved, think of his positive points, think of what your life would be without him in it.
2006-12-13 03:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why you are angry with him. If you are angry because he is genuinely an idiot, then that's not fair because you knew this about him before you married him. If you are angry because he is smart but is behaving like he isn't, then perhaps you need to ask youself why he would use this kind of behaviour. Is he trying to annoy you because he holds a resentment over another issue, is he trying to get your attention by behaving stupidly. Is he really behaving stupidly or is he just not behaving as you would like him to behave? In what way would you like him to change his behaviour?
In my experience (I was married for 21 years) I found that usually if I looked a little closer I was usually annoyed about something else, not the way that he was behaving at that moment. I think the only way to deal with the problem is to talk about it. Calmly. Next time he does this, ask him why he is doing it. Not in an angry way, just as though you are really intrigued. He may be a little surprised if he is expecting an angry response. Either way, tell him that you do not like this behaviour and how it makes you feel. He can choose whether to take that on board or not, but at least you will have told him calmly.
Of course, sometimes anger can be really helpful, and it can be a really good idea to scream and shout and tell him that he is being an idiot.
Good luck
2006-12-13 03:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by deee999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you figure it out, let me know. I'll just hold this pillow in position over my husband's face until I hear back from you....
Generally I try to detach and remember that I can't control his behavior... all I can control is my feelings and responses about them.
So... instead of his idiocy driving me to anger, I just numb out and walk away and don't let it affect me.
Or I try to....
Generally I wind up feeling like "I feel so sorry for you that you are such an idiot. I'm glad I'm not you, but I'm only married to you."
Does that sound horrible? Probably. But he's still breathing, isn't he? lol
2006-12-13 02:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one who can judge if you are an idiot or not. Why does it get to you? Do you feel inadequate?
If this happens alot then he sounds like a bully and your relationship appears to be based on competition rather than intimacy and mutual respect.
Ask yourself why it bothers you so much. You will come to an acceptable answer for you in time.
Good luck.
2006-12-13 02:44:23 · answer #4 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of him as a naughty puppy or an errant child of about teenage years. He can't help himself. Us men have a self destruct button that means we get into a cycle of stupidness and can't get out of it without
1. getting drunk or
2. having a row or
3. sex.
It's in our jeans. He simply needs an authorative figure to tell him he's a prat and he's forgiven for being a prat. Oh, and it will happen again soon. Good luck.
2006-12-13 02:46:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to storm out of the house. But if you do this remember to take the car keys with you! nothing worse then making a dramatic exit only to have to go back in get keys and do it all again. it spoils the effect!
2006-12-13 02:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by Sianny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Remember the good times! Otherwise, think about your children and how it will affect them if you get angry at your husband.
2006-12-13 02:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by Vertigo addict 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.) Ignore him
2.) Count until one hundred
3.) Forgive, but don't forget.
4.) Wait 48 hours and a peaceful moment to talk about it.
2006-12-13 02:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by Miguel R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just put him across your knee and give him a good tanning and thereby vent your anger this way. Only problem is he may enjoy it! Still worth a try.
2006-12-13 02:45:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself how often has he ever put up with your bad habits and it will put more value on him please don't see this as an insult it's meant more to be a help also i would talk with him when you both have a quiet moment and explain to him how irrating it is to you without arguing. You might be suprised by his reaction
2006-12-13 03:36:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋