Well, I work in a clinic and my friend who lives in the same apartment building I do and she is dating this guy who came to the clinic to get tested and he was + and he doesn't know yet. Should I tell her? But if I do tell her and she tells him I could lose my job!!! What should I do?
2006-12-13 02:38:54 · 26 answers · asked by Tiara J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
after he gets his results, tell him to tell her- and make sure he does.
2006-12-13 02:40:20 · answer #1 · answered by The Ascending Serpent 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u are sworn to confidentiality so if u feel this is worth loosing ur job for then only u can make that call. But is ur friend so innocent. How do u know she didn't give it to him and what made him come get tested n the first place she doesn't have to tell u every thing.
in my line of work OSHA tells us to treat every one as though they r infected because i don't know their status. this is something that should b practiced out side n every day life as well. Every thing that looks good isn't good for u. and give him the benefit of telling her himself he may b man enough. but at least let him find out first
and then in a caring way approach him because he's gonna need a true friend. put ur self n his shoes and don't be so judge mental
this could happen to any body even u today there's so many hints and commercial and all different types of advertisements telling u to get tested know ur status it's as common as seeing MacDonald commercials so there's no excuse. she a grown woman and she should care enough about herself to know who she laying down with and allowing him to sex her with out protection u trust no one and nothing when it comes to ur health. AIDS is a epidemic and it's running through nations like wild fire.
so there no reason for her carelessness.
God loves u and so do I
2006-12-13 11:06:37 · answer #2 · answered by baby gurl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have had similar problems. I have a position in a religious organization that allows me to know things about people that they don't tell others. You cannot break someone's trust, no matter what. But you can tell the girl that she needs to be careful. I would probably tell her not to sleep with the guy, for now anyway. Tell her you have a good reason for telling her this, but due to other obligations you cannot tell her excatly why. If she pressures you, explain that you have made previous agreements that prevent you from telling her this, and ask her if she would want you to reveal to others things she told you in confidence. If you tell the man his results, emphasize his need to reveal this to ALL of his partners, past present and future. If he doesn't tell your friend, tell her to break up with him, he is not honest and he doesn't care about other people, which is true if he hides something that serious. I hope you navigate this delicate situation sucessfully.
2006-12-13 10:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by White and Nerdy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should tell her if he doesn't!!! I know the same position you are in b/c i used to work at a hospital and i saw so many people i knew but i couldn't say anything b/c of confidentiality!! But since her health is at risk she should know !!!! There are so many more jobs. Best of luck!!!
2006-12-13 10:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by Christina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my understanding at clinic's they have to report people they sleep with if they are positive. If he doesn't tell ,you could always send a hint for her to go get checked cause someone told you that he was positive.
2006-12-13 10:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You might not want to tell her because that would be violating his rights. Let him know and he might end up telling her. It would be the right thing to tell her but you might not want to do that because he could sue the clinic for giving out personal info.
2006-12-13 10:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by Crazy K. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is a real friend, then there would be no job worth me keeping that sort of information from her. Jobs come and go but real friends are one of the "few" things that last a lifetime.
2006-12-13 10:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to tell her, you might say "Hey, I just tested (guy's name here) and.. I'm wondering if you might need a test as well ?" then she might say "why would I need to be tested ?" and then you just look at her "that way".
That way you don't (legally speaking) tell anyone anything, but if she's smart, she'll get the general drift :)
2006-12-13 12:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by One 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Positive for what? HIV/AIDS? Oh man. First, you need to let hte doc disclose that info to him first. MAJOR LAWSUIT if you go running and telling her. He will prob tell her when he finds out. That is a horrible thing. I am so sorry you got word of this before he did! Be strong!
2006-12-13 10:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you have a duty to the patient. You may be able to suggest to your friend that she should not sleep with him and if he doesn`t tell her when he knows then have a word with him. Also think where did he pick it up could it have been her ? ? Only putting the thought out there, be very very careful.
2006-12-13 10:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if shes a real good friend of yours i would say tell her. it would be better her knowing then finding out later that she has it and she caught it from him. you can always get a new job. friends last more than jobs do
2006-12-13 10:41:38 · answer #11 · answered by whitney s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋