I have missed my period for three months now, but I know for a fact I am not pregnant, because I am still a virgin. I have also been getting severe back aches that usually turn into body aches. My mom wants me to see a gyn. but I am kind of scared too. I am only 14 and have never seen a doctor like that before. Has anyone experienced the same thing, or does anyone have suggestions on what I should do? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks.
2006-12-13 02:34:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
go to the gyno. it isn't that bad. you may have a big problem if don't go now. i know it is scary, my first time was when i was 15( i was still a virgin) i had to get birth control pills to make my periods hurt less and make them more regular( so it didn't hurt as much). I hope you get help soon
2006-12-13 02:38:34 · answer #1 · answered by Moony Black 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about your regular doctor? If you have a family physician and not a pediatrician, they can help you as well and since you have a rapport with this person it will be easier. If not you need to see if you can see a female gyn, this will help. It's probably hormonal, but you could have an infection.
Eventually sweetie your gonna need to go to one of these doctors virgin or no virgin. I know it's hard going outside our comfort level always is. Have your Mother go with you, into the room, not just the waiting room. The nurse will be in there the whole time too, as they can't be alone with you. Ask if you can talk to the doctor first. Maybe somewhere nuetral like her office, before going into the exam room. Ask her exactly what to expect, this will help.
I know your scared, but sometimes we all have to do things we are scared of. It sucks, but it's best to meet these things head! Our whole lives we are met with things we've never done before. If we didn't reach out and do them where would we be.
Good luck. I had the opposite problem at your age, horrible heavy periods that lasted 2 weeks and started up again in 10 days. Pain so horrific sometimes I couldn't stand. It was endometrosis, if I hadn't gone in for treatment I would have blocked up my fallopian tubes and wouldn't have the sons I'm blessed with today.
Missing periods at your age is quite common, that isn't so much the problem. The problem is that your having severe back aches and body aches. Could be an infection, cyst on your ovary, or countless other things so it's best to get it checked. If there is something wrong you want to know what it is so you can get it treated as these things can get worse. And dealing with it early is better than letting it develop into a big problem. If all turns out to be well then you can stop worrying and that alone will be a relief. Xo Xo
2006-12-13 03:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing you haven't been getting periods for very long, so your body may still be trying to find it's equilibrium (balancing out). Also, if you have become very active (beginning a new sport or workout regimen) that can cause your periods to become farther spaced or to stop altogether.
As for seeing a gyno, just be sure to go see a female doctor. It will help make the experience not quite as traumatic. Make sure your mom goes with you and is present during your exam. It's never a comfortable experience, but it is necessary for your health. Ask your doctor to explain everything she is doing and why and to show you any instrument she is using and how it works. Even if they look wierd, it will help ease anxiety to know everything that is going on.
2006-12-13 03:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by jhvnmt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down, since you're a virgin there is no way you could be pregnant! I'm the same age as you and my period irregular. It's perfectly normal. How long have you been having your period? During the first year, it's normal that it's late or if it doesn't come at all. Or maybe you haven't been eating as much? Eating disorders cause you to no longer cycle. But if you are seriously worried about it, talk to your mom or doctor. But I seriously doubt that you're pregnant, it's kind of impossible to be pregnant if you still haven't lost your virginity......
2016-05-23 17:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always a good idea to see the doctor when something is going wrong. Amenorrhea - the absence of a regular menstruation - can be common for a young woman your age. Are you thin for your age? Are you active in sports? Are you under a lot of stress and pressure? Do you have an eating disorder?
All of those things can impact your cycle and make you late. Go ahead and go with your mom to the doctor. If you're scared, she can sit in the room with you during the exam. And, the exam is nothing to be worried about. It should be over quickly and it doesn't hurt.
2006-12-13 02:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by jenn_smithson 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree. It may be stress related, I missed mine for two months and FREAKED! [[Virgin]] But I came on the next month. I didnt tell my mom, which would have probably been the smart thing to do [[kudos]] but it turned out to be nothing. Changes in the way you eat, sleep, or exercise can change when your period comes or if it comes at all. Drinking alot of water suddenly can too. But I would see the doctor if I was you because I didnt have that, yours might be more serious, not trying to jinx you, but if it is you want to catch it early!! I havent been to one either, i'd be scared too, but remember its for the best. Good Luck! <3
2006-12-13 02:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by phattygurl859 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a Dr. If you are uncomfortable that is perfectly normal, you can request that your mom stays in the room with you, and you can even request that the gyn be female--I had to see one for the first time when I was 12, its scary the first time, but you got to know what is going on. a 20 min exam could save your life
2006-12-13 02:45:48 · answer #7 · answered by HappyGoLucky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes this has happened to me, I remember missing 5 or 6 months periods, its most probably related to imbalanced hormones, I took primrose oil capsules and then I was ok and periods came back as normal.
But because u r experiencing back pain I strongly suggest that you go see a doctor or gyno as there maybe something wrong with your uterus or have a condition.
Hope that helps.
Good luck.
2006-12-13 05:25:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone else. See a doctor. I was scared too my first time but it isn't scary. Just remember the Dr. has seen EVERYTHING IMAGINABLE having to do with that so don't be embarrassed and nothing will hurt , it's not like going to the dentist.
2006-12-13 05:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your probably best of going to see the Doctor as they will be able to help and advise you on the problem and investigate why it is happening. It may be embarrassing for you but worrying about it will only make you feel worse and your family will support you.
2006-12-13 02:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by emmalp75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋