my teenager would not ever think of his mother for holidays. (gift giving) if i did not encourage it. ( do it myself) what age should i stop pushing the issue
2006-12-13 02:31:05 · 11 answers · asked by kimmy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd say when you're 35. No, seriously, I think that with him being a teenager he should be caring and responsible enough to decide if he wants to give a gift. Maybe have a little talk with him and explain that you are now putting the ball in his hands. Let him know that his mother may be hurt if forgotten on those special occasions. But after that, the decision to give should be his.
2006-12-13 02:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by Hallon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find it rather sad if my son or daughter "never" at least thought of buying my ex a Christmas/birthday gift. Although my childrens relationship with their farther is so weak, I still do and will continue teaching them to "do the right thing by their dad"…at least buy a card and small gift. I would not stop encouraging this, rather ask my children to put an active effort into choosing, wrapping it etc, its teaching, encouraging, our children to grow into fine and decent human beings, at the end of the day, there will only ever be 1 mum & 1 dad. Have a wonderful Christmas
2006-12-13 10:48:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say from your teens reaction then he is really over buying gifts for his mother which is sad . stop pushing the issue now I mean from the looks of things the teen is no longer interested in doing this . good luck and god bless and happy holidays.
2006-12-13 10:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stopped buying gifts for my ex, from the kids when they turned 12. I figure that by that age they should work for the money for the gift.
2006-12-13 10:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by foray14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop when your teenager turns 18. By law they are an adult and if your teenager still doesn't buy their mother gifts by then, you can't say they learned that from you.
2006-12-13 10:58:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it up for now, as your teenager needs to realize he needs to think of his mother during the holidays. If your teenager continues beyond his teenage years with this attitude... then it is time for him and his mother to take up the issue and for you to step back.
2006-12-14 09:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by sportyspice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in this situation myself. Does he/she just forget or is not bothered about his/her mother? It depends on the relationship that they have with your ex. In my case, my kids see their dad regularly and have a great relationship with him. They ask me to take them to the mall etc to get gifts (which they pay for) for birthdays and holidays. I rarely have to remind them these days. I guess what it boils down to is the relationship that your ex and your child have. If it is strained then why force your teenager to show feelings that aren't real.
2006-12-13 10:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cjildren will buy gifts when they want to or ask you to help. I would not push the issue. Its your EX for Gods sake.
2006-12-13 10:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by wizzygirl10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While your teen should be old enough to remember to do it for themself, if they don't seem to remember I think you should ask them why they don't want to. If your ex really screwed them over as well, their relationship might be so bad that your kid might resent the ex and not want to be associated withthem.
2006-12-13 10:36:02 · answer #9 · answered by Lost in Merryland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOW! You can not make him "feel" what he doesn't. He is old enough to know better and still chooses to not acknowledge her in this way. Let it be.
2006-12-13 10:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋