The idea of making love to her is just dandy, but when shes pregnant it just doesn't do anything for me, and I know it can't hurt the baby, but theres still a thought in the back of my head that it might. HELP!
2006-12-13 02:10:14 · 22 answers · asked by thechosenone_2003 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It just doesn't sound right. Ok I could probably bring her off or something, but honestly I can't see myself making love to her. Its not that she won't be attractive to me, because I love her and I would if she weighed 5lbs of 500lbs, but the pregnancy thing, it'd scare me incase I hurt the baby. Oh yeah btw to the lady that said I'm not working with a 10ft pole, how do you know?
2006-12-13 06:44:58 · update #1
explain to her that that's how you feel. you could making her think that she's undesirable. there's loads of information on comfortable ways and positions to have sex in. relax you're not going to hurt the baby. try americanbaby.com
2006-12-13 02:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by *~*Jon-Jon's Mommy!!*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it is hard, but you need to try and come up with a way to overcome this. Chances are, she is probably starting to feel a little rejected and when a woman is pregnant...she needs to feel loved, wanted and desired. My husband and I had the same problem. He was concerned about hurting either me or the baby though. This is a very natural reaction. The cure was to keep the lines of communication open. Have you tried to at least get in a lot of cuddle time and trying to be intimate without actually engaging in intercourse? There is a chance that just showing her that you are in love with her and that you are still interested her may help. You really need to tell HER how you are feeling though...before it is too late. Lack of physical affection can really take it's toll on the pregnant woman and she may begin to really dislike herself.
As long as her doctor has not found any reason why not, and she is not a high risk pregnancy then sex is perfectly fine...in fact, quite good.
You may find that she is actually more aroused now than ever before..my advice would be to use this to your own advantage. It will surely benefit you both. Try something new or different with her. In addition, maybe after you have some good cuddle and affection time..you to will become aroused.
Just try and keep an open mind and don't let the pregnancy interfere in the love that you have for her.
2006-12-13 10:23:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely will not hurt the baby. And a lot of pregnant women out there are extemely sexually active and want sex quite a bit!!
I would try to just be easy and go slow at first, have a couple drinks to losen up. Not having sex could be very offensive to her. I would just try to find a way that makes you more comfortable to do this. Play with her with your hands and see if you can't arrouse yourself enough to do it.
Just don't worry, you're not going to hurt anything, if it's uncomfortable for her, she will let you know. Just don't do any different positions, stick to missionary until the both of you are more comfortable. Just be easy and see how it feels to you, and you'll know that you're not hurting the baby.
2006-12-13 10:21:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A pregnant woman often is at her top sexual form. It's likely you don't see the human form but a sexual object. I see the pregnant human form as one of those things that is extremely beautiful.
If the thought is in the back of your mind that you'll hurt the baby you don't have to look far to understand that couples throughout time have had sex during pregnancy, (Yes, even your parents!!)
Talk to your wife about it, and if need be see a counselor or her doctor to allay your fears and reservations..
Think about the one time you don't have to think about birth control!!
If you are handling "things" yourself, try letting off of it for a week or two.. too much self satisfaction reduces the ability to perform..
2006-12-13 10:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i would suggest that you do foreplay first to get you more in the mood. I think many men feel that way! I have always heard ( from my husband and my friend who's G/F is preg. that is is awesome while preg. I would just go for it and try not to look down just imagine her before she was preg if that helps!! If you just can not do it buy her a vibrator because she probably will need it. YOu can not hurt the baby!! No matter what you think the baby is VERY protected!!
2006-12-13 10:23:01 · answer #5 · answered by mommy of 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a position you might be comfortable with. I don't think you could hurt the baby no offense but your not working with a ten foot pole down there...you know?
2006-12-13 10:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by cuppycake♀ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to be rude but you would have to be incredibly endowed to even begin to touch the baby.not to mention that were the baby is at is closed!the cervix isnt open unless shes dialating so theres no way youre going to hurt the baby!unless the doc specifically says no sex then its fine!youre actually going to hurt your wife more by rejecting her!trust me!so get over it and have some fun!its the only time wwhen having sex that you dont have to worry about her getting pregnant!enjoy it now!
2006-12-13 10:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by these r my people 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wish I had your problem. My wife hated sex when she was pregnant. I went 8 months without sex.
Maybe you she talk to her and tell her you need a little extra foreplay for motivation. If you are engaging in any late night internet extra curriculars, stop that for a while and that may help with your motivation.
2006-12-13 10:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by Jeffrey H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband loves making love to me when I'm pregnant he says it fells great and you can't hurt your baby trust me I have 2 children and 1 one the way.
2006-12-13 10:14:27 · answer #9 · answered by RoseAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should do it! B/c her hormones are crazy...besides u know u can't hurt the baby, plus the doc says it good, it can help with her delivery!!
2006-12-13 10:38:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋