but im married and i need to have an affair my wife is fat and not so pretty do you think its ok because she does not look the way she use to should she keep her self up so i will want her is it all my fault
2006-12-13 02:06:07 · 21 answers · asked by Dirk Diggler(the one and only) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why would u want to do that maybe u should look closer at yourself and ask why the woman you married has put on weight maybe she doesn't like you any more and that stresses her out instead of cheating she ate maybe your the one that's ugly
2006-12-13 04:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by nicname 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You took a vow for better or worse in sickness and in health. Right now is the worse part as well as sickness part if she has gained a lot of weight. No do not have an affair. Have you talked to her about your concerns? Has she just snubbed them? Has her personality changed? Has her weight gain caused issues in areas other then sex? Now if she has gained only say 10-20 pounds and is just a little softer here and there I would say you are being shallow, but if we are talking a lot of weight then I would approach it as you being concerned for her health. If you have kids I would explain to her you want her to be a healthy role model for them, also. So have you gained weight? Lost your hair? Not look like you did? Take a look in the mirror and make sure you have not slipped either. It may have been easier for her to kind of give up if you have too.
Seriously if you want this marriage to work do not have an affair, if it is past the point of no return then do you and her a favor and get out. The pain that an affair would cost is horrible. Both to you and her. Good luck and do the right thing!
2006-12-13 10:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by Needingsomeadvice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are a total scumbag. Apparently you married your wife for her looks and nothing else. Just because she may have a different body or look different, she is still the same person inside. If you cant love her for who she is and not what she looked like, then you don't deserve her. She should be having an affair on you because apparently you are not man enough to love her and give her what she needs. Maybe you should grow up alot!
2006-12-13 10:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by girlajeepin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you marry some one you are suppose to honor your vows. You married her for better or worse. Everyone has to take the good with the bad. Your love for her should be based on her beauty that is inside not only on the out side. If you truly love her deep with-in your heart & soul you will always notice her beauty and her weight will not make you love her any less. Did you ever think that you just might have some flaws about yourself that she dislikes as well. But she loves & respects not only you but also the vows that the two of you made and that is why she is not judging you on your flaws. So you should not judge her. If her weight is a problem for you then you should sit and discuss this with her.
Good Luck
2006-12-13 10:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats kinda sad that you dont think she is still beautiful. some guys have affairs though even if their wife is beautiful. it sounds like your desperate for something new. maybe your relationship is over. if you cheat you will only want the other woman instead of your wife and things could get really bad. dont hurt your wife ask her to join a gym with you. tell her that "your" new years resolution is to get in shape and ask her to join you. sometimes the added excersize makes things better. just telll her how you feel about her weight gain it will hurt her feelings but its better than her catching you in bed with someone else. if you cheat you could get a disease or anything be smart about what you chose make sure the other woman only wants no strings attached before you do anything. im sure you love your wife so just tell her somehow that you are losing the attraction.
2006-12-13 10:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by chandal r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, look in the mirror maybe you arent so pretty anymore yourself, and you know what? so what if she gained weight, big deal, she is still the person you married. do her and yourself a favor, dont bother going behind her back just divorce her, she deserves better. no affair is worth the pain you put someone through. someone out there will love and appreciate her for her, not for whats outside. what did you think that no one ever changes? if you wanted somethng materialistic and unchanging maybe you should of found yourself a blow up doll. good luck.
2006-12-13 10:11:22 · answer #6 · answered by private n 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you got the scumbag part right.
It's obvious to me that she sees no reason whatsoever to WANT to keep herself up. She sounds depressed. Maybe she's heard a little too much criticism from you!
And why is it that men can only romance their wives if the wife "looks good"? Whatever happened to love?
2006-12-13 10:11:40 · answer #7 · answered by Kodoku Josei 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey you married her! If you are out of love with her, you should divorce her before you have another woman. Why hurt her by having an affair first? Give her enough respect to leave her and file for divorce
2006-12-13 10:09:13 · answer #8 · answered by zarem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For better or worse....love the person inside, not what she becomes on the outside. You knew when you married he that even if she didnt gain weight, she would still get old right? What would you do then? Leave her because she looks old? Don't be so superficial...love your wife...not the body.
2006-12-13 10:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by Kim 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that way, do the decent thing and end your marriage. After that you're free and clear to pursue someone else but given that you are clearly self-centered and really shallow, you might want to check yourself first and see if you are even mature enough to be with anyone.
2006-12-13 10:09:45 · answer #10 · answered by jaynic72 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're worse than scum to think of cheating on your wife! If you're really that unhappy with her weight and she can't or won't change it, DIVORCE HER! But don't use her to have someone to do your laundry and cook your meals and clean your house while you're out screwing some ho!
It's a package deal and if you don't like her looks then don't use her to do all the many other things she does for you. Cheaters are cowards. They know they'll be alone if they dump their spouse, they'll have to do all their own cooking and cleaning, etc. but they want to have their cake and eat it, too.
You obviously don't love your wife if you would even think of cheating on her so go ahead, divorce her, and leave her free to find a man worthy of her! Someone who will love her for who she is and not make excuses to cheat on her.
2006-12-13 10:10:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋