At many special school functions there is a particular group of kids who are 'very much favored' in regards to being chosen for special roles, activities, etc.. I know this goes on all over the place, but I don't feel that it is right. These childrens' parents all grew up together, they all live near one another, go to the same churches, and basically have a good support group within their group. So the kids all know and play together frequently. Having not grown up here, I don't know many of these folks, although I have been a volunteer in different capacaties for years here, often benefitting said kids/families, but still do not feel welcome. There is a heavy 'queen bee'/bullying attitude involved here. I feel that although my kids aren't part of this clique, they should be able to participate in school functions just as much as the 'bees'. Am I stepping over the line by going to the school and making my attitude known about this?
2006-12-13 02:04:56 · 4 answers · asked by ginarene71 5 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
I am not trying to be a bully here, just to see that my children are not left out just because others want to participate with only their friends and no one else. Since I am paying just as many tax dollars,and in most cases more, for our school district, I don't think a few bullies should run the show every time. This is a case where my kids have actually been told by OTHER CHILDREN that they may not participate 'just because' they are not wanted. I am only referring to school-run functions, not personal activities.
2006-12-13 02:26:44 · update #1
!Go to your school principal and let out all your feelings about what is happening at this school.if you don't get any help from them go to your shoolboard they can probably help you with your children's isolated feeling. do it now , don't let this situation continue,if you wait it could only get worst.have a merry pre christmas season!
2006-12-13 03:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to try to re-engineer social groups, and if social activities are being dictated by these groups, you won't have any success, no matter how hard you try.
If there are school functions, though, such as plays, concerts, teams and clubs that are being managed by the social groups, then I think it would be a good idea to have a private meeting with the principal so you can express your concern about the pervasiveness of the cliques in what should be school-run activities.
I hope it works out for you and your child.
2006-12-13 10:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by jood_42 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No legal grounds, unless you can prove its discrimination. You can make your attitude known, but it will only alienate your child further in a small town like this (thats what it sounds like to me). As long as your children do not feel effected by this marginalizaton, or is completely unaware of it, I wouldn't call it to their attention. However, if they are, your attention should focus on maintaining your children's self esteem and how special they are regardless of whatvever "cliques" may exist. Try to separate what you want (as fair as it may be) from what is best for the child. It is more important that children are comfortable in their own skins, and realize that they are above the bullying and cliques to find their own niche.
2006-12-13 10:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by CloudRider9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you people? Haven't you guys grown out of this by now? School functions should be open to all students...if its not then there is a problem....though I doubt they are not openly allowing other students to participate. Discrimination is illegal.
2006-12-13 10:11:10 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋