I am having an affair with a friend he is married and has a baby and I am married and have a baby, we used to hung out all of us together. We started just flirting and staring, then I sent him some pictures in underwear, my husband found out and told her wife about what we were doing. After that my husband forgave me and his wife too, we said that we were not going to see each other anymore, but we did and now we kiss and touch all the time, we never had sex and this is going on like this for 3 months... We know each other for like 3 years and we were always attracted to each other but never say anything... Now i feel like I cant live without him, he is in my mind all day I make love to my husband thinking about him, and we think we are falling in love with each other... we try to stop so many times and we always come back to the kissing and seeing each other again ..what should we do?? please help me I am going out of my mind.
2006-12-13 02:00:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That is a hard place to be in, very understandable, you may be in love, but you also may just have that first fealing of something new and exciting, and it almost feals like love. If you love your husban then you need to let go, but if not you need to find out this other guys intentions, you don't want to be going in opposite direction. If you are not sure you need to cut ties before you go any further with him and can't go back. Just know that children are not a reason to stay together, they will just be hurt more in the end. Good luck, and all else I can say is pray, pray, pray, hope it works out for you.
2006-12-13 02:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only having these feelings, because it is something new. Trust me, if you leave your husband for this guy, IT WILL NOT BE THE SAME! Gain control of yourself, and think about your child. Sometime we are attracted to other people, but that doesn't mean we have to act on it. Stop now or the damage may not be able to be repaired the next time your husband catches you.
2006-12-13 10:46:51 · answer #2 · answered by Red Diva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should both file for divorce first and then carry on if you're still attracted to each other once you are both single. I think part of the thrill of it is the fact that you are sneaking around. You know what you are doing is wrong, so why continue? Think about the children involved. They should be your first priority. Nothing good will come from cheating.....I hope you are ready for the consequences because they will come eventually. I hope you can live with yourself then.
2006-12-13 10:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you do not love your husband or the vow that you took to be with him when you got married. I wouldn't be surprised if he divorces your cheating self. Why don't you just leave your husband? But be careful, the man you are having an affair with may not leave his wife and child.
2006-12-13 10:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to end this are you willing to give up your family for this man.if he did this with you so to say he wont do it to you if you two get married
2006-12-13 10:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by janet k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋