I'm kind of sick of how people think that maintaining marriage is sooooo hard. Not all marriages are...as long as you have the right partner, things can go reasonably smooth. My husband and I have been together for 5 years, and believe it or not, we've never had a blow-out. We talk things out like the adults we are. We have our arguments, but who doesn't? Things get better before the day is over.
I'm not trying to brag about my relationship, but I just want other people's input. Not all marriages are hard work. It shouldn't be. Both people should be mature enough to take care of each other and respect each other and look to the future and see each other in it.
Is your marriage difficult?
2006-12-13 01:53:09 · 13 answers · asked by lkjgfyfukh 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh lady im so happy for you.5 years and not 1 blow up.sounds like bull crap but hey it could happen.marriage is hard cause everyone dont have that "right partner".people talk things out but there are some things that just cause fights.i think marriage is hard cause that delicate balance is hard to keep.who takes the kids to school,who picks them up from the babysitter.who cooks dinner,who washes dishes.who washes clothes.who folds them and put them away.the balance is hard espeacially if both parties work.im happy someone has a happy marriage though.may your good luck continue.oh yeah dont forget the lying cheating douche bags out there
2006-12-13 02:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both people are ready for it and really want it to work, then you will still have hard times in life to face together. Also... Sometimes people grow apart from one another. Sometimes a marriage can be comfortable, at which lust could enter the marriage on either end. One thing for sure though... One never knows what the future holds for them. Good Luck with your marriage of 5 years.
2006-12-13 10:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by yp_later_sallisaw_404 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a marriage is like a friendship, it easy but takes some work too! Ive been married 6 years and it has had it's hard times but nothing that would ever end our marriage, I think if you really know who you are marrying it's OK, some people are so quick to run to the alter when they barley know the person, those are the ones that end, and when one makes a unforgiveable mistake! Just my opinion, though some shot gun weddings work, I just don't think many!
2006-12-13 09:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We you are going to be sick of me too. I have been married over 10 years. Yes, marriage iS hard but it does not mean it cannot be fun. Marriage takes TWO people to make it work, it takes patience, understanding, forgiveness (lots of it), warmth, caring, and COMMUNICATION.
Remember that line from "Good Will Hunting?" When Robin Williams says that "you are both imperfect," "What matters is that you are perfect for each other."
Even the best of marriages will encounter problems sooner or later. Yes, marriage can be wonderful and exciting but it takes CONSTANT naturing!
2006-12-13 10:17:40 · answer #4 · answered by nowhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've been married 24 years and it's been great. We never have knock out fights. We discuss our differences as you mentioned, like adults.
I think it has a lot to do with our respect for each other. We do not believe in a 50/50 deal. We both give 100% of ourselves to each other. It's worked for us.
It's nice to hear that other people have similar relationships. We are becoming the minority.
2006-12-13 10:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on your expectations of the marriage. The more you expect, the greater challenge it should be to meet those expectations. But I would not consider those challenges as being difficult. Pretty much if you can sit across a table and eat with your spouse and enjoy making love with that person, the rest will take care of itself.
2006-12-13 10:11:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sarah it is good that your marriage is working so well but be careful when you have several children and he is too busy or too tired to talk to you- but talks to his girl friend on the phone! I had a few good years too until one day i got a rude awakening! He got it else where and at home until i found out and he started trying NEW things and i though we were already well occupied. D*** F**L he was still jealous of me showing him how it felt! Stupid thing -thought he loved me-i can do without that kind of love! But my advise to anyone out there experiencing the same thing just kick them out permanently. I had boyfriends that were more faithful-and i thought he really loved me-the biggest mistake of my life! Trust him and love him but keep your eyes wide open!
2006-12-13 10:10:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been married for 22 years and there has been a few bumpy spots about child rearing issues in laws and such but if you love each other (which we do ) you can work through any thing as long as you can rely on each other and know that what ever you say to one another youll be fine and don't worry about a big blow out it might happen one day just because people get angry at one another does not mean they don't love each other.
2006-12-13 10:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by auntie s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage sounds good. I congratulate you. I'm divorced, because my marriage was painfully difficult to say the least. And I don't want to try it again. But it's nice to know that it works for some people.
2006-12-13 10:02:19 · answer #9 · answered by Beth T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont think its all peaches and cream honey... its a job for the both of you through the constant changes etc.... good luck
2006-12-13 13:10:17 · answer #10 · answered by georgia k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋