How do you keep someone from draining your life force from you?

Answer 1

Some say our energy field becomes intertwined with the rest of the people you come in contact with. One way to dislodge it would be through water..a bath or a shower maybe at the end of the day.

Also, sometimes we encounter people who are called 'psychic vampires'. These are individuals with the capacity, with or without their knowledge, to suck energies of individuals they come in contact with. Here are some facts I gathered from this site http://healing.about.com/od/energyhealing/a/psivamps.htm:

People Who Take Energy From Others
Guest article by Rita Loftsgard

The name psychic vampires immediately reveal our attitude toward people who take energy. Not as obvious, it also reveals our attitudes toward the people from whom they take. A vampire is a taker who drains its victims.

To help and heal ourselves and each other, we must first recognize the person who is taking energy from another person can only do so if the person they are taking from agrees to it on some level. Freedom comes when we stop projecting our fear of powerlessness onto others, blaming them and victimizing ourselves.

Permission to give or take does not need to be granted on a conscious individualized basis. It comes from an underlying attitude about giving and taking.

Our experiences in life all include give and take in varying degrees and mirror back to us where we are on the spectrum selfishness and selflessness.

Selfishness and self-centeredness are generally viewed as undesirable traits. Selflessness is usually viewed positively. Both require balancing.

Those who give selflessly without balance can become doormats or martyrs or may "kill with kindness". They may find it difficult to say "No." Those who take without thought are often very kind people who have learned inappropriate ways to get energy. They may also be obviously selfish and thoughtless of others. These are examples of opposite ends of the spectrum. Most of us sit somewhere closer to the middle and as with all living things our abilities and balance fluctuate.

The giver's attitude of willingness creates an opening that enables a taker to connect to the giver. Connecting to each other, although generally unseen, literally creates a physical connection that we just do not see with the naked eye. The Hunas have spoken about these connecting "cords" for centuries. More recently Phyllis Krystal, a therapist from California, has developed a technique called Cutting the Ties That Bind, a method of working with or cutting serious ties that prevent us from being us.

Those we mistakenly call vampires are not necessarily bad people.

What you can do:

If you suspect you are a giver - you must become clear you play a role in the experience and you are no longer willing to do so. Say firmly and clearly aloud, "No one else can have my energy. My need to give is fulfilled through healthy means." You may see yourself doing service work or another healthy form of giving. Take time to get quiet or to meditate and ask to see any unhealthy lines connecting you to another that are affecting you then. Visualize severing those ties in whatever way comes to you. It helps if you know the person you are severing from but it is not essential. Do this clearing, affirming, meditating and severing until you feel you mean it and it is complete. Relief and new energy will follow within a few days. Bless and forgive everyone involved, including yourself.

If you are a taker you must become clear you are no longer willing to play that role. Say firmly and clearly aloud, " I now receive all the energy I need in healthy ways. Energy comes to me easily from the earth, from the air, from Divine intelligence. It is everywhere and I willingly accept it from healthy places and in healthy ways. I always have all the energy I need."

Whether you are a giver or a taker, you will likely need to practice this over time. You will learn to recognize physical sensations that go along with someone connecting to you. For me it is light headedness and dizziness. For you it may be different. Pay attention. Your body will tell you. Both the giver and taker are simply trying to have their needs met. Both are seeking balance. Both have complete control over the situation through managing their own attitudes lovingly.

Answer 2

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Been there many times. Going it alone without anybody's advice or wisdom through experience can be the toughest place.

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Answer 3

That is not a possibility. No one can drain life force from anyone except you to yourself. Positive thinking, prayers each morning and a thank you prayer each night will keep your life force growing and it will thrive on all the good thoughts you give yourself 24 hrs. a day. Ask God for anything you need, you want and expect it to be delivered and you shall receive it...it is proven and only you can disassociate the bad thoughts from the good ones you think of every day. Negative thoughts grow if you allow them and when you start to think about anything bad or negative, stop yourself and say "God is great, God is good"-that does it every time. If you think ill will to anyone, reverse that to just saying or thinking, "I wish them well"...you will be amazed at the results. Remember, negative things, negative people like to suck you in so they'll have someone to hang with...don't be drawn to them. I love this phrase..."Never give the devil a Ride....He will always want to Drive!" Again...Peace to You, and Peace to All!

Answer 4

Through meditation.
And by meditation, I simply mean to find somewhere quiet where you feel secure, close your eyes and breathe slowly and regularly.
Then, visualize the person whom you believe to be 'draining your life force' and imagine yourself as this person. Mentally place yourself inside their skin and imagine what this person has been through and how this person thinks and sees the world.
Once you feel you have achieved a true sense of this person pull yourself back so that you can see their face. Look deep into their eyes and tell the miserable bastard to knock it off!
If that fails, try avoiding them like the plague.

Answer 5

Got a problem with a psychic vampire do you? We fortunately they are easier to deal with than the mythical undead types. Give them the cold shoulder. Get an answering machine and/or caller id. Don't answer their calls and delete their messages immediately. If they call you at work get a restraining order. When they confront you in public speak in a loud attention grabbing voice, create a scene be obnoxious and rude. Then when you see then fluster and red tell them to bugger off and leave you alone. But most importantly don't give in to their guilt trips, cry crocodile tears to their sob stories and be sarcastically sympathetic. And never apologize lest you want them back.

Answer 6

I have a 14 year old living at my house, she drains the life force out of ANY LIFE !!! , HELP ME !!!!!

Answer 7

You can go to a new age shop & get some Tourmaline crystals. Tourmaline will protect someone from draining your energy.
Also, each morning when you wake up, visualize yourself with a white light around yourself. This will revive & refresh your energy. Do it again at night.

Answer 8

I have several family members who are very draining. I used to try everything to help them. It's never enough for them. It was sucking the life out of me, and it was affecting the way I was dealing with my husband and children. When I woke up to this, I made the choice to stay away as much as I could. Once you step back you realize how poisonous they are to you. I still help them, but not nearly as much. you have to put yourself first. sounds selfish but true; only then can you be happy.

Answer 9

As many have already answered before I..There is nothing you can do..Avoid them..Stay out of their presence and have them out of yours..
Many do drain..life force..it is a power thing..*very primitive*....
For instant and absolute resolve to this..end contact.

Answer 10

So simple. Stay away from these people. If it's a relative, keep the visits down to 3 hours.

Answer 11

There are people that drain ur energy,they are called "energetic vampires" witch is natural, i have a friend that drains me good.i get a big depression lack of self esteem etc etc. just try to avoid them