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Question

i have been linkin with a girl from my university.
we alway end up having sex ,i didn't see her for about a week then i saw her last week n we linked up and having sex. yesterday she told me she was pregnant
wot should i do?
after she told me she just walked away and i didnt see her all day so i couldn't tlk to her.i really like her but we aint a couple so what should i do .its is my kid ,i dont even no if she want to keep the kid or not.i love her but i dont no if she trust me cuz ive been wid 2 other girls y ive been linkin with her, but she just keep taken me back tho

sh knows my best mate n he told me that she not keeping the kid cuz where both to young (shes16 im 18).
and she told him i cheat on her to many time n i dont love her, but she wont evan ansewr my calls to find out how i trully feel . but she cant tlk to me cuz she is scared !! wot shall i do about this ?

Answer 1

how do u no it Ur child ask her for proof.
find her n talk to her and stop sleeping around.
if she keeps taken u Back it must me she likes u 2.
if Ur m8 can talk to her ask him to tell her Ur gonna b there 4 her and u love her .
if she don't want the child cause Ur both young she being sensible remember she is only 16 n if Ur 18, it looks like she making the right decision. she 16 and she having a baby u need to understand she gonna be scared.

Answer 2

A paternity test is a good idea - otherwise you may find yourself being made legally responsible for someone else's child, through the new CSA or some such organisation empowered to force you to pay maintenance.

If it is your child, then you have to take responsibility for it, after all, if you each decided not to take contraceptive measures, you are equally responsible for this situation. Even if you and this girl do not continue your relationship (which sounds doubtful if she has been seeing others at the same time as you, another reason to have the paternity test done!), you will have joint responsibility for this child at least until they are 18.

You should talk about the decision as to whether or not to keep the baby, but ultimately, since it will have a greater impact on her physically and emotionally, the final decision rests with her, and, even if it's not what you want, please support her in it, as it won't be an easy decision for her either.

You also need to think about when/how you tell your own family, if necessary.

Best of luck.

Answer 3

Don't have sex until you're old enough to understand the importance of condom use. If she wasn't and isn't your long term partner then why, oh why, were you having unprotected sex?
Go to the GUM clinic and get yourself a full screening of all sexually transmitted infections.
Now that's said, if you know indeed, that you have gotten this girl pregnant, then you must speak to her. You are both going to have to be grown-ups and make tough decisions. If she decides to keep the baby, then you will need to speak to your parents and her parents, assuming you are younger. This ultimately comes down to communication, yours and hers. She may not want to speak to you but give it time. She is probably in shock and may be a little confused at the moment. Put yourself in her shoes.
I'm sorry this has happened to you but if you're going to have sex, first and foremost, protect yourself and your partner. Pregnancy isn't the only worry.
Good luck and be safe.

Answer 4

How can you love her if your just having sex and and not a relationship? you need to speak to her if she keeps the baby you need to decided rather you want to be part of this childs life, if shes decides to not have the baby, will you stand by her???

even through all this is happening you should learn something! wear a condom and if your sleeping with all these women get a STI test

Answer 5

Learn about protection! How can you be sure it's yours, she could have been with anyone and in ths same logical argument she could ave given you any number of diseases!

You need to talk to her, ask her if it yours, ask if she has been with anyone else without protection and discuss the situation as adults. You also need o get yourself tested for STDs!

Answer 6

Try and get back in contact with this girl. Find out what her decision is. If she intends to keep the child you should have rights to be able to see your child.
Good luck!

Answer 7

first of all you needa learn how ta keep you pants zipped up and stop poppin out yo lil jr. every time you get da chance....gosh have you ever heard of aids hiv diseases period..gosh and if you gona have sex at least be smart enough to stay protected....what you did is STUPID! but now you havta pay da consequences....you needa find some way anyway you can talk to her and work somethings out but DONT freak out and try ta leave dis all up to her:( if it is yours you just needa man up first stop havin sex wit all these othas gurls and learn how ta take care of a baby....once you find out how hard and how much responsibility it really is i can promise youll think twice about openin yo legs and wipped out yo thing again....

Answer 8

Take her to court its your kid as well, but wait until its born because it might be ugly and its better to wash your hands of it if thats the case

Answer 9

You really need to sit and talk to her and find out what SHE want then you can decide what YOU want. you also need to be sure the baby is yours.

Answer 10

i think this girl is dose using you for sex.and if she just sleeps with u and u dint hear for her i think she might be sleeping around with other guys.if you like her tell her and ask if the babe is really yours.