I do. Ok, my friend who's only been going out with this guy for like a week, says he's gonna get her a promise ring for Christmas. I'm like wtf? And she says it's "cute." because he says he wants to be with her 'forever' we're only 15......dude.
2006-12-13 01:28:03 · 36 answers · asked by K 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Wow, see, I have the same philosophy as you. I am fifteen as well, and let me tell you, a lot of this happens down here in Tennessee. They'll break, the guy is stupid , and the girl has temporarily fallen for him. I've seen it a million times. Just sit back, watch it happen, and be there for your friend when the relationship ends.
2006-12-13 01:31:46 · answer #1 · answered by davy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think that a week is a bit too soon to be saying that really, sure im 17 and im engaged but ive been with my fiancee who is 19 for 3 years and known him for 8 so im quite within my rights to. You cannot say that you want to be with someone forever in a week because you havent known them long enough to be. That promise ring is guaranteed to be broken and their will be tears when it does because it is only puppy love nothing more. Your friend should make sure she doesnt set herself up for heartbreak becuase shes under the impression that she is going to be with this guy forever. A week is way too soon to be saying that seeing as it took me the latter of 8 years for me to decide.
2006-12-13 01:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by miss89 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 15, just turned 16 and I am with a girl who I will be with for the rest of my life. We've been together for a few months now though. I think one week is a little early to be giving her a promise room but since they are 15 it isnt as big of a deal, 15 year olds do stuff like that and it is cute. If you were 20 and you did that it might not be as cute.
2006-12-13 01:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by Male16 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
OMG!! My friend (who is 14) has been going out with a guy for 1 week and he ALSO promised her a ring for Christmas (weird)!! Anyway, he wants to be "together forever" with her!! She (my frien) is so stupid he "dated" like 100,000,000,000,000, (exaggerated) girls and not one "relationship" has lasted over 2 weeks. Sorry I don't have anything to help but I'm in the same spot as you!!
2006-12-13 03:12:02 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Hollister♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. As for your friend, you know that she will do whatever it is she wants. Its going to be very difficult to sway her into your direction if she is "head over heels" for this guy.
Support her feelings while letting her know that you dont agree with the relationship going so fast. Just let her know that you still care for her and maybe even have a talk with a teacher, parent or adult friend if there is any else available if you see that her relationship is getting too far too fast. Hope this helps. Take care! Oh, and to answer your question, I dont think its stupid. I think, like I said, your friend just needs a lot of support and some maybe some parental/adult intervention.
2006-12-13 01:34:02 · answer #5 · answered by cristabel80 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she understands that in all probability, they will not be together "forever" than I think it's harmless. I had 4 engagement rings (not PROMISE rings, but actual diamond engagement rings) before I ever met my hubby. I may have strung them along a bit, but at least I gave the rings back when we were over! It can be a sweet gesture, as long as her expectations for "forever" aren't too high.
2006-12-13 01:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by ilovejolie86 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To her its cute because she likes him.
A promise ring is kinda like an engagement ring but lower then that status. Its a promise to stay together forever type of thing.
Just let her enjoy herself. Most 15 year olds don't stay together in relationships very long but if she wants to enjoy it then let her. And don't let her know how you feel cause it will hurt her feelings.
2006-12-13 01:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by angelmwilson 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let her enjoy the experience. It might not last long. I think, although young, love can still be experienced. It's not stupid if its not stupid to them. Life will take her many different places and through many experiences. Don't spoil her happiness by being negative. If it is too soon or she is too young, she'll find out in time. Unfortunately, people have to find out on there own.
2006-12-13 01:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I also said when I was 14 that I met the first love of my life. Said it for YEARS! I'll be 23 tomorrow, and I realize now that it was only infatuation. NOT THE SAME THING!!!
In a week, they'll hate each other. Maybe less. Who knows?
2006-12-13 02:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by I_didn't_do_it 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. That is the reason why I don't date anymore. Despite the fact that someone may be intellectually and mentally mature, ur emotions are not mature enough to handle the responsibility of another person before you are an adult. a child is taken care of by an adult, when they are older they are given the new responsibility to take care of themselves and be independent. It is wrong to go straight from dependent, to supporter. you don't get a chance to stand on ur own two legs, and learning how to do that is a responsibility in its own.
there would be nothing wrong with a little fun harmless dating, a kiss on the cheek, movies. cute little kidsey stuff, nothing serious and all fun. i soon learned i was the only one who held this opinion. all the guys i was with seemed to have it in their heads that i would marry them! and at 15 too! i also felt very very pressured, i consider myself healthily emotionally mature for my age, but i know for example, I'm not mature enough to take care of a child full time, i just know that i am not responsible enough, not ready and its too soon for that step. i also know I'm not ready to be supportive of a person the way a wife would support her husband, I'm a little filly trying her legs for the first time, i cant carry the weight of anything but myself right now! it felt in these relationships tho, that all the emotional support the boys needed was shifted from their Mommy's onto me, it was far too much for me to handle! they expected a child to be a woman, while they were still emotionally immature themselves and didn't support me at all. it was very very stressful for me, missed periods, panic attacks. it was far too much for me to take in. Its sad in this society that kids have to play adults. isn't this the time in life for carefree, footloose fun? sadly, i am still waiting for someone my age to share that opinion. so I'm waiting until i grow up so i can do grownup dating. because its too hurtful to play pretend grownup dating when all i want is a little puppy love.
2006-12-13 01:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋