i cant get pregnant.?

Question

i am 18 and married. my husband and i want to have a baby. we gant get pregnant. we have been trying sence the day we got married. its only been 3 months but still we want a baby. i just got the test results back yesturday and it came back as no you are not pregnant. i cried for three and a half hours. please if you have any advice email me or just answer the question!

Answer 1

When you're trying to get pregnant, every month seems like a long, long time. But, in reality, three months is not at all a long time to have been trying. On average, a couple who does not have fertility problems will conceive within one year. That's right -- 12 months. It is not considered a potential problem until you have been trying for more than one year with no success.

I know that does nothing to help you actually get pregnant, though! But there are things that will: first of all (and no offense to the person who offered this answer) don't abstain from sex for a long period of time and then have sex, thinking you'll get pregnant that time. It is not good for the sperm, believe it or not, if you do that -- in fact, the "ideal" frequency of sex, all else being equal, is every other day. (Every day works great too, but not everyone wants it that often, and, if there IS an issue with sperm count, every day will actually be too often.)

The best thing you can do if you want to get pregnant is to start charting your own cycles -- this will tell you when you're ovulating and when the best times are to conceive. Charting involves taking your "basal body temperature" every morning, noting your cervical fluids, and, if you can/want to, checking the position of your cervix (that last, I have found, is not necessary -- many women can't even do it, myself included). Two things to note: there are ovulation kits out there that may help determine when you're about to ovulate, but they are costly (you have to use them repeatedly) and for many women are not accurate. The second thing: taking your temperature, by itself, is NOT enough to tell when you will ovulate; your temperature rises in response to ovulation...and therefore by the time it goes up, ovulation has already occured and it's too late for that cycle.

I recommend two great resources: Taking Charge of Your Fertility, by Toni Weschler, and the website http://www.tcoyf.com -- the forums there are great, the women very helpful and supportive, and it contains some great FAQs that will detail what charting involves in ways I simply do not have time to do right now.

I tried for a long time to have children. I learned to chart my cycles and was able to time sex to get pregnant fine. My babies are about to celebrate their first birthday.

Now, read up, relax, and enjoy baby making. Best of luck!

Edited to Add: There is absolutely no basis for asserting (as someone did in a previous answer) that stress causes miscarriage -- please, don't pay attention to that misinformation, and don't start worrying that worrying will cause you to lose a pregnancy! It won't.

Answer 2

First of all, you need to chill out. Second, you are only 18 years old, you are too young to have a baby yet. Why don't you try and do something with your life instead of defining it by having a child. Go back to school, get a good education and a job, and then maybe you'll actually be ready to raise a kid properly. By the way, 3 months is nothing. You need to wait at least a year or 2 and if nothing happens, then do some research. Judging by your reaction, you're not very in tune with how the female body works. I really don't care if you give this message a bad rating, but you obviously need to grow up before you bring kids into this world. It's hard enough for adults who are educated and have jobs to make it. Now try raising a kid on top of it.

Answer 3

You are stressing to much. Stress can cause you to not be able to conceive or even miscarriage so early in the pregnancy that you wouldn't even have known that you were pregnant so you need to just chill out relax and then nature will do it's thing. Making a baby is supposed to be fun not work to both of you just relax and make sure that you are taking prenatal vitiams so that you won't have to worry about that also. Good Luck!!

Answer 4

Now everyone can cure infertility using this natural remedy http://pregnancyhelps.info
infertility can run in the family and one of the first things the doctor asks you when you go to a fertility clinic is your family history regarding cases of infertility or other reproductive issues.
If infertility is caused by genetic disorder then it's not unusual that one of the kids (your mom) doesn't have it and another does (your aunt).
two months of trying is still to early to be concerned about the fact that you might be infertile and it's also quite early to go to a fertility specialist. Go to a regular Obgyb to get a closer insight and see what ways there are are to improve your fertility rate.
Also remove alcohol, caffeine and cigarettes from your life because they might influence your chances too. Stress is also a risk factor when it comes to infertility.

Answer 5

I think that you may be trying too hard to get preg. Enjoy life and go about your day and have sex when you feel like and multiple times if you wish whatever the case is...don't just have sex to conceive..thats when it stops being enjoyable and you don't want to loose that especially so early on in your marriage or ever for that matter! Everything in life happens for a reason and at certain times in our lives. It will happen...just be patient! Its only been three months and you have your entire lives together!! Good Luck and Congrats of your marriage!!

Answer 6

you could try some herbal stuff like Vitex.

Also you need to get to know your body and when you ovulate so here are alot of links that you should look at.

Start temping in the mornings this site tells you how to do it
http://www.storknet.com/cubbies/preconception/bbt.htm

then use this site to chart it
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/

This site is a forum where girls can chat about TTC......Please look at this one they can be so helpful
www.justmommies.com

Checking cervical mucus can tell you when your fertile...here's the site for that
http://www.babyhopes.com/articles/cervical-mucus.html

Checking your cervix. You need to scroll down some cause the first part we have covered already
http://www.womenshealthlondon.org.uk/leaflets/cycle/cyclechanges.html

Using ovulation predictor kits (these can get expensive....(I recommend ordering them in bulk on line or using the dollar tree)

I also recommend this book
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0060937645/bookstorenow57-20

If you have a 28 day cycle then you are likely to ovulate around the 14th day after your period. You would want to have sex before during and after this time! Have sex every other day cause everyday will lower his sperm count!

Answer 7

it can take up to a year to get pregnant i would take it easy as worrying like this is making you worse the best way to conceive is work out when you ovulate some women ovelate later or earlier but 14 days after period is due is the normal you can buy ovulating sticks which will tell you when your ovulating these are good if your trying to get pregnant quick dont worry and i know how upsetting it can be but be patiant and it will happen good luck to you and best wishes xxx

Answer 8

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Answer 9

go a long period of time w/o having sex.... and then have sex w/o a condom you might get pregnant...i did that and my son just turned 1

Answer 10

stop trying so hard....it will come when u leats expect it!!!...try enjoying sex -vs- doing it ot concieve
good luck and congrats newlywed!!!