1)to be very good-looking
2)to be very rich
3)to be very intelligent
4)to be very nice and kind
2006-12-13 01:14:08 · 5 answers · asked by L 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i would have to think between...intelligent or nice and kind....but i guess i would be nice and kind...coz dats d most important thing in life....and even unintelligent pl can become happy...but mean rude ppl...no one cares about
2006-12-13 01:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by niks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, #1 would be cool of course. But it's not the most important thing. #2 would depend on what you'd do with it. #3 I think would be very helpful in lots of ways but it won't by necessity make you happy or be a better person.
I have to discount #4 altogether though because that's is something everyone can decide to become. There is some strong research to show that people eventually become what they behave as. Much less than people behaving as they believe in. That's because we all do things, nice and mean sometimes, no matter what we believe. The belief doesn't change all that much how people act.
But the research shows that if you act and do nice things for no real reason that your mind will decide that you did it because you ARE nice. And shortly you become nice.
It's like with school integration. People didn't become less racist because they decided it was the right thing to do. They became that way (often) because they were going to school with diverse people in a situation where they had to be civil to them a lot of the time. In the middle of math class they couldn't call someone a bad name or beat them up because they'd get in trouble.
And so they are sitting there in math day after day and they "discover" that there must be some reason they are not doing mean things right then. Because deep down they don't think they care if they get in trouble or not. So what does their mind decide? That the people they used to think badly of must not be so bad or they'd be hurting them no matter what.
All any of us have to do to "be very nice and kind" is to act out being nice and kind and we become nicer and kinder. It takes about a month, I bet. And then you do it even more so for another month, etc.
2006-12-13 04:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by Avalon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say number 4,i want people to like having me around,and if i want to be with somebody,i don't care for his intelligence as long as he's nice and kind-hearted too
2006-12-13 01:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by Legend85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#4 because that one may help me know how to be the others.
2006-12-13 01:22:44 · answer #4 · answered by A B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#4 because I have to live with myself.
2006-12-13 01:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋