My husband works for a guy who has no problem cheating on his wife. To top it off he loves to brag about it to the guys at work. He also gets into detail what sexual acts he preferres; like going down on women he just met. Plus he hates condoms. Ya! Also his wife know's about these latest escapades she found several text messages from the a women he was sleeping with when he was working out of town on weekdays. Her reaction was, she would fight for him. No matter what it took face lift, boob job, whatever it is he finds himself cheating on her over. I think this is pathetic and it really bothers me that she so stupid and very insecure. The ironiny though she really is an intellegent woman and pretty good looking too, so why is she so willing to put herself at risk? Why is she easily convinced when her husbands says it just her insecurities and he's not cheating. Then he tops it off by making her feel quilty for suspecting him in the first place. How do i not let bother me?
2006-12-13 01:13:22 · 11 answers · asked by Sassymama 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Fear of Happening to me, no such luck I have no problem leaving anyone who betrays me and puts my life at risk. No one in this life time is worth degrading myself over. I WILL NOT TOLERATE ANYONE WHO WOULD PULL THIS **** ON ME, Trust me no problem leaving anyone ONE.....I know I'm worth the love and integrity of another human being.
2006-12-13 01:27:44 · update #1
to those who have no moral fiber I can see why it upsets you that I have a strong opinion about this. I do have a life and guess what very fullfilling. That's why I don't get you cheating bastards. May you all catch something fatal to you alone;.
2006-12-13 06:54:56 · update #2
I completely understand your annoyance at the woman. You just have to tell yourself that some women's values lie elsewhere and unfortunately, that value is not always placed within themselves. It sounds like you don't want to get too involved but it still really makes you angry that she is an intelligent, pretty female. Just tell yourself it is a cultural difference (maybe her family's culture or the way she grew up relayed messages that its ok for a husband to cheat as long as the wife is getting certain things). Try to chalk it up to that and see if that helps allay your upset feelings at the wife.
2006-12-13 01:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by cudancegirl1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't. His abominal behaviour goes against every moral fiber you have and it therefore bothers you...and rightfully so. I pity the wife of such a scumbag.
You can do one of several things:
1) Express your opinion to the wife and urge her to take action...at the very least urge her to get tested for STDs and HIV. If she does nothing, then its her burden...at least you have made your point.
2) Tell the scumbag to his face and in public at the next company gathering where spouses are invited TAKE A STAND in front of his wife and the other wives! Hhowever it is possible your husband may bear the brunt of any retribution this P O S might dish out.
3) Do nothing about this and go about your business.
2006-12-13 01:23:14 · answer #2 · answered by GAValkRider 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There must be a reason she doesn't care. Could be the money he makes that keeps her in the lap of luxury. Maybe the thought of being alone is worse than being with an idiot like that.
Is your husband close friends with his boss and do they hang out together? Because if they do, I would be worried that this behavior would influence your husband. You should talk to your husband and share your concerns with him.
2006-12-13 01:50:45 · answer #3 · answered by Jane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way, when i hear other people stupidity i get annoyed also....and i always have opinions, just cant help it..I just very opinionated.but....
i honestly think it bothers you because deep down inside you think your husband will take heed and try that on you...men tend to think they are missing something when they are locked down(married) but they then come to their senses and realize there is nothing out there...but talk to your husband about how it bothers you, and then tell him..."if you think you gon try something like that I WILL KICK YOUR ***! so dont even think bout risking it!"
trust me you will feel better..
2006-12-13 01:39:14 · answer #4 · answered by ♥12-9-08 a prince was born♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical denial. And she blames herself for not being pretty enough, hot enough etc.
Personally I share your opinion that it is pathetic and dangerous and I guess if I had some kind of invested interest it would bother me to a degree.
I think cheating on your spouse is the be-all and end-all in marriage. There's no turning back for me at that point.
2006-12-13 01:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by snippers72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound really angry about this. Why not concern youself with your own life. Are you giving your husband the pleasure he desires. Is he giving to you? Why not concentrate your energy on something that actually is your business?
2006-12-13 05:52:55 · answer #6 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these days, some people have no regard for themselves.this man needs to sleep with women to feel secure. but, how can you really love someone,yet risk there life? you're compassion is the one thing that separates you from this man.i will prey it's not contigust.
2006-12-13 01:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by explorer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-18 05:38:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not your problem, why is it such an issue for u? go get a life and leave ppl to deal with their own problems!
2006-12-13 02:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It bothers you because you are afraid that it might happen to you.....talk to your husband....good luck
2006-12-13 01:22:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋