more loving from him. If not Im going to leave him, he's only 43 and act 93 always working.
2006-12-13 01:02:25 · 22 answers · asked by mstina412 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For all you haters, I'm a beautiful black women who went from a size 22 to a size 12, I'm 5'7. I've done all the sexy dressing, I've even ask to watch and learn some new trick, but he doesn't want to watch them with me. I have a lot of men after me, but I honor my vows and my marriage. I get offer for dates, lunch etc., I told my best friend (guy) about this and he said my husband is a damn fool, not to make love to me every day are at least more than once a month. He's healthy, I think he's cheating. Now what should I do?
2006-12-13 10:53:51 · update #1
When he's watching porn, get yourself working with it... You can give him oral... You can play while he's watching it, and see what he does...
2006-12-13 01:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said that he is always watching porn and always working. Is he always watching porn at work? If a man would rather watch porn than be with his wife, I consider that cheating, and there is never an excuse to cheat. Turn into a porn star and see if you get a rise out of him then. Most men want their wives to be wh**es in the bedroom, but a lady in public. Pull out all the stops and take your husband back from the computer and or DVD.
2006-12-13 09:18:13 · answer #2 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you physically attractive, and do you dress yourself to attract him sexually? Watching porn for long periods may mean that he is either a voyuer and not a performer, or find sex with you is not to his liking. (It is not clear since how long he has restricted sex with you to once a month - I assume it has been so for many years. Some men lose interest in sex after a few years.) Try to dress seductively, enhance your assets, entice him with your charms.
When he is watching porn, dress yourself in revealing clothes and join your hands and, if possible, other parts of your body, with his body. Try to touch his body parts which you know arouse him. Invite him to have a bit of foreplay, if he isnt willing for sex.
Maybe you should talk to him and find out what he wants from you in regard to sex. Is it possible that he is a poor performer in bed and knows it? If this is so, you need to encourage him and see what needs to be done to improve his prowess. Maybe you two can sit together to read a good manual on sex.
Hope he does not have erectile problems or take some drugs that afffect his sex libido. If this be so, consultation with a counselor/doctor would help.
2006-12-13 09:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by greenhorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find some toys or something to spice up your sex life. Try doing some of the moves and or tricks that he likes to watch in the fliks. Maybe you're not doing something that he wants. In order to keep him (because he'll probably leave you first) try some new things
2006-12-13 09:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by Black Diamond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe try some new things to attract him to you again. I dont want to sound mean, but he may be bored with the current situation. Make yourself a new woman, if its worth the trouble. But know that you are a beautiful woman! If he doesnt see that, then he has blinders on!
2006-12-13 09:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by Montecar3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is hiding the fact he is having a problem with sex,he is watching porn to make himself aroused.he is worrying inside about his problem.You should tell him its ok and you will work with him,he is having a hard time getting a errection and its bothering him.
2006-12-13 09:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think some of the women have it right, doll yourself up, low lights and sit beside him and tell him you want to watch some film with him.sounds daring yes it is. NOW is the time hun get your rear in gear.
2006-12-13 10:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by tonyflorida2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some lingerie, do a sexy little strip tease, watch it with him, go down on him while he is watching it. I doubt he will push you away. The real thing is ALWAYS better than watching it.
2006-12-13 09:21:43 · answer #8 · answered by Candy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he may be bored with yalls sex life...sit down and watch the porn with him, start talking openly about sex , go out and get some lingerie and toys, in other words your current sex life may seem routine to him so it is up to you to spice it up, it happens in a lot of marriages so work on it together.
2006-12-13 09:10:24 · answer #9 · answered by schally31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's addicted to porn, maybe you should talk to him about getting some professional help. You should let him know that YOU are his WIFE & its his responsibility to take care of your sexual needs, not just his own.
Good Luck
2006-12-13 09:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by missbronzebeauty09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join him, the key is to keep your sex life interesting. Try something different and new, for example role play. You know what he likes and incorporate that.
2006-12-13 09:07:01 · answer #11 · answered by Not_Here 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋