i find myself attracted to this other lady at work, she is beautiful but shy and opens up only to me...i find myself enjoying her company...i like her, but would never dream of sleeping with a woman other than my wife...Am i normal? Or is my attraction to the other lady a kind of betryal on my wife?
2006-12-13 00:58:26 · 28 answers · asked by tom j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just don't act on it.
2006-12-13 00:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you ever wonder if your wife has the same thing going on in her life? Maybe she finds another man fun and attentive, every one needs to feel special but keep it safe and make your wife feel special before you end up getting caught up in it. It is normal to have that happen because we all like attention. Its not a betrayal unless you have more than just a friendship.
2006-12-13 09:02:34 · answer #2 · answered by gemini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its okay to be attracted to a another person but when it comes down to point, remember your wife and the promise you made her and yourself when you said " I do" and remind yourself that that lady at work is just one of your best friends! Tell her that you will always be there for her when ever she needs to talk or needs anything. The best thing to offer her is friendship and you offered your wife your life! Imagine the lady as your sister!
2006-12-13 09:04:05 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Wings 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes get away from this other women, it's not good because eventually you would have a lapse in judgement. Transfer departments, find another job, anything. The fact that you mention you haven't considered cheating is just like you have considered it, please stop looking around, do more with your wife, stop opening up to this shy woman, who cares that she needs attention, so does your wife. Tell your wife what shes not giving you and it'll work out.
2006-12-13 09:01:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it is normal, wonderful friendship, just don't act on your thoughts, and yes does your wife know about your friendship. I am also married and seem similar to the gal you mention I open up to another guy here at work, but my husband does know about him and that we talk each day.. I think as long as you are open about it and not hiding the friendship then there is nothing to worry about
2006-12-13 09:04:30 · answer #5 · answered by Tammy N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is fairly normal to enjoy the company of a person who you find attractive, so long as you don' t act on your attraction I think your fine. I just saw an article on this, see the link below, it should be helpful.
2006-12-13 09:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by niknac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To your wife it would definately be utter betrayal. You married her because she was all you needed the rest of your life. Granted it is normal for everyone to be attracted to someone at some time. Don't act on it and don't flirt back, how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot?
2006-12-13 09:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to set boundaries, because things happens, and I do not want you to be one of them, who says, it just happened. Let her know that you love your wife, you can still be friends with her, nothing wrong with that, but know your place! It is normal to be attracted to the opposite sex, and tempting, that is why you must be on your guard, you have too much to lose, and I have so much respect for a man, who can share with other people, how he loves his wife! Have a great holiday!
2006-12-13 09:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal, we all develop crushes. However, since you are aware of this, you need to put a stop to it before you do get lead into a direction that may destroy your marriage. And if she is aware of the fact that you are married she should back off. However, there are many women who enjoy dating a married man, because of their own inadequacies. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-13 09:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called friendship....you like her...enjoy her company...just make sure you both understand the parameters of the friendship and don't go any further or it will be a betrayal to your wife...good luck
2006-12-13 09:00:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The woman at work ...does she know that you are married?Do you think she will want you to f her and go back to your wife?You think rather much of yourself...gee,I am so attractive I have another woman drooling over me.
2006-12-13 09:38:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋