it does not feel the same. It is like i have no feeling at all in that part off my body anymore. My partner is very understanding about it, and i do look after him so he is not missing out, it is just me. Is there anything i could do to get my sex drive back and to get some sort of feeling back. Before i had the children we would have sex everytime we could and i still want to, but there is no feeling at all it is really get me down and i could see it becoming a problem in the future.
2006-12-13 00:47:37 · 19 answers · asked by Katie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I had this problem. And, what I needed was excitement. I found that my DH wanted sex to wind down at the end of the day to relax, and that I wanted to be relaxed to even think about having sex. It was a vicious cycle, and it had to be broken. Bless his heart, he brought home a book called "the great american sex diet", and it did wonders for our sex life. It was all about creating sexual moments together. And, I found that my buttons were pushed, in the beginning, by the ideas that he was plotting and planning my seduction. That he was making extra effort. I highly recommend this book. It was about 5 years ago, and although we dont use the book anymore, our sex life has changed considerably, and we are 4-5 times a week. And, we have 4 kids (7, 6, 5, 3) We found a rhythm and adapted to it. Good LUCK!! And, always feel free to talk to your doctor about it. But, dont forget to explain to your hubby that there is nothing sexier than a man who smells good, and does things without being asked (like giving kids baths and stuff!!!)
2006-12-13 00:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by thelaundryfairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you may have a psychological problem to me. See if you can find some time alone (see if family will look after children for a night) and treat yourself to a nice relaxing bath etc and really pamper yourself. When your partner comes home have some fun together and just try to forget everything apart from the two of you. Alternatively you could try some sex aids to see if that gets you off and rekindles your sexual spark. If neither of these things work try a counsellor because there may be underlying problems.
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2016-10-05 06:25:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you r not alone i have 2 kids a 9 yr old and 3 mth old...after my first i felt the same way and you know what i still do now that i had the second one.i have no idea why but i lost my sex drive and never really ever got it back..its hard to on your spouse ..we sactually started fighting about it.i went to the dr and he said there wasnt anything he could really do but i am still looking and trying everything to help with it.i am trying this new product out for women to help increase the sex drive i will let you know if it works ok
2006-12-13 01:26:37 · answer #4 · answered by kelly s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is definately a doctor issue. i had the same thing and it could be a bit of depression that makes you feel that way. as of the lack of feeling. the doc can help with that as well. i'm presuming you had your kids in the normal way with no c section? pelvic floor exercises can help and in severe cases an op can be performed to help. but it does sound psychological to me. maybe you see yourself as a mother only? and not someone sexual? never say the problem is only yours. its your partners as well as he can help you, and it takes the pressure off you. he sounds like he's very supportive make use of that. you can see it becoming a problem so deal with it now and go see the doc. good luck.
2006-12-13 01:00:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its totally normal to feel this way.. i had 2 kids when i totally lost it.. you need time for you.. 3 kids is a lot for a mommy your age,, women are worriers care givers.. take a day or a few hours for you..go do your hair.. a massage that you must deserve... be a woman again... but also go the doctor and find out if there is a hormone inbalance.... i let myself go with 2 kids but was able to pick up self...there are so many factors that can affect a womans body and mind when you have kids.... i can tell from your question that you are a good mommy but dont forget yourself in the process...keep sexy ... it boosts your ego and morale...
2006-12-13 00:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by mmm..whynot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think most women suffer from this. I have the same problem, I read a book on fantasies and that help get me back into it. your probably knackered and resentful and i think it's hard to feel sexy after having 2 kids. Treat urself to nice things and have some time out to get ur energy levels back.
Good luck
2006-12-13 10:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by sammyantha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes My sister do not worry about this. It is normal thing with every body. As we grow, our sexual desire and drives decreases. But yours seems to be at a very early age which cause me to alarm. However, there could be reasons why you are experiencing this at this very early stage.
1) If you started having sex at very early age when your sexual homones were not fully developed , it could case early weakness in sex drive in future.
2) If you do have a poor diet,
3) If you have too much sexual activity.The bodyis like a machine. It wears out quickly with you use it excessively with out replacemement. Eg Taking some medicen once a while to enhance your libido.
2006-12-13 01:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by microspatula 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go and see a doctor and express your concerns. You may be suffering from something as simple as fatigue due to taking care of the children or maybe some kind of hormonal imbalance. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-13 00:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all in the mind you know!.. yep that's right all in the mind , You have to want to do it to enjoy doing it, anything else will not do and frustration will get worse.
Best thing you can do is to have a secret fling, perhaps not a physical one, perhaps email or text messaging, the secretiveness of this type or tryst often fires up the ole imagination.
2006-12-13 04:29:18 · answer #10 · answered by robert x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋