i hate my life! what should i do?

Question

i hate my life! my best mate leaves me on my own all the time,
im rubbish at army cadets, i fail everything at school.
what should i do?
i've thought of running away... or killing myself!!!
i need some advice?

Answer 1

find new friends that will stick with u no matter what
find local uniformed groups near u e.g. scouts, guides
and ask your teacher if he/she could help u at school

Answer 2

You're young - you are just starting out in life, and like anything else, it takes time to become good at it, even life itself! So, give yourself time. Is there an adult who understands, whom you can talk to about this?

What you lack isn't ability, or friends, or luck - what you lack is confidence and belief in yourself! That comes with age and time. We've all been where you are now at some time in our lives - you are just like the rest of us! Welcome to the human race!

Your best friend doesn't sound like a very good friend, but, at the same time, if you are always so down on yourself, are you fun to be with? Think of the people you like to be with - are they happy? Do they always make you smile? What is it about them that makes them popular? They may not be great lookers, or brainy or good at anything other than just being who they are. If they can do it, so can you.

There are things you are good at - you just haven't discovered what they are yet. You have friends - they must know what things they like about you. You are clearly a sensitive person - that means you might well be someone they feel they can talk to. That's just one positive thing about you that I can see from your very short question. I bet there are loads more.

Try new things, new activities, and in so doing, make new friends. Don't be afraid to try something just because you might not do well at it - no-one does the first time, or the second, or even the third. Can you swim or ride a bike? Think back to what it was like when you started to learn to do these things? You probably had times when you wondered if you would ever manage to do them, but you persevered, even though you sometimes sank or fell off, and in so doing, you learnt, and achieved your goals.

So school work and Army Cadets is not your thing. Think about the things that are. And try them.

Think positively and believe in yourself. It works for sportsmen and women - at all levels - they psyche themselves up by picturing themselves winning at whatever competion they are in, because it has been proven that our minds can convince our bodies, and help us achieve our dreams.

Don't run away, don't attempt to kill yourself - either of those options are the coward's way out. You are stronger than that. Decide that you are going to see this through, and in a few months time you will look back and wonder what it was you were worried about (like I bet you can't remember what was worrying you six months ago, now, can you?). And, in working though this, you can take pride, because you have proven that you are stronger, and have made yourself stronger, by doing so.

Some of the most successful people in the world today were rubbish at school (even their school reports said they wouldn't make anything of themselves!) and many of them left without a single qualification to their name. There are hundreds of people with degrees who are in dead end jobs. What's the difference? The ones who succeeded believed they could. And so, they did. And so can you.

Answer 3

think about where u really want to be in your life right now, sounds like whats going on now is not making u happy? killing yourself is definitly not the answer, i've felt the way u feel alot, in the middle of changing things around in my life as we speak. look into a tutor for the schooling, army cadets? is it required? ask for help? maybe u should talk w/ your best mate and express your feelings. tell them u really need some advice or just a shoulder right now because of what all is going on! if it helps, all of us go thru stuff at some point in our lifes, but we all find diff. alternatives!! you'll get thru this, trust me!!! music & dancing helps me unwind and think sometimes!!!!

Answer 4

First of all, you need to realize that you have it pretty easy right now if those are your choices. If you are not happy with your life, then change it. You need to ask yourself why you don't like your life and work on that. Never think about killing yourself for any reason, it just won't make matters better. Sounds like you are sad about what's going on around you. Maybe you should change your scenery. Wait until you have to get out in the real world and actually make a living for yourself, then you will have the right to be unhappy.

Answer 5

i sure u not rubbish at army cadets at all but if your finding parts hard ask for advice,maybe look at slowly increasing your cicrle of friends and write a list of all the things you would like to change about your life and then once a month start changing one thing by this time next year, you will feel like a different person, nothing is ever as bad as it can feel at times i promise you, good luck hunny xx

Answer 6

Talk to someone about it, I'm sure they will do everything in their power to help.

Sometimes we all get a bit down, but you just need to get through it and things will get better. You're young and you have so much to look forward to.

Find something you enjoy that you can do alone, and try talking to your best friend or even finding a new one.

Army cadets, who cares!!!

Answer 7

Don't be silly. These things are just sent to test us. Life is hard and there'll be times when you're alone but you need to be strong. You will find things that you're good at and your friends probably don't mean to hurt you but you can't live in each others pockets. don't even think of running away or worse because it's not worth it. when you've lost people for real you'll know that every moment in life should be cherished, good or bad.

Answer 8

Instead of doing things that others do and failing find something you are good at and give that a go instead. As you get older you will realise that you get out of life what you put in (God I sound like my father)

Really we all go through down times, life is like that. Don't worry be happy! It's a state of mind thing

HAPPY DAYS

Answer 9

Just stop putting yourself down,im sure that you have many good qualities.Harming yourself or running away will not solve any problems.Maybe you should tell a person you love and respect what your feeling and you might be suprised at the help that they can offer!Good luck.

Answer 10

just because some loser leaves you on your own all the time--doesn't mean you should hate your life and want to die- think about the kind of person you are--are you kind? thoughtful?caring? how others treat you don't make who you are-be proud of yourself-and use your strength to make your life better-not to beat yourself up-pick yourself up and remember-if you love and respect yourself others will as well--and the ones that don't, aren't worth it anyway.