My crazy sister is in love with her teacher. I mean she really loves him and I must admit that he is so damn gorgeous and handsome, but he has a girlfriend and he never ever looked at her in the way she does to him. I thought it was just admiration, but it turned out to be real love!! from her side, of course. She's sending him flowers and gifts. What should I do?
2006-12-13 00:09:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Speaking as a teacher myself, I can tell you that there are those few students who develop crushes or what they feel is true love on us. After all, teachers are human too and people are people.
However, I would explain to your sister the dangerous consequences of having a personal relationship (affair) with a teacher. Most important, it can cost the teacher his or her job if the affair becomes known! There's a line that teachers must not cross, and inappropriate student contact such as dating is an absolute no-no.
And I would explain that it's natural to develop feelings for people you see everyday and are in a position of authority, like a teacher. But getting personally involved in these situations, such as a boss and subordinate employee are dangerous for both parties. And if it doesn't work out, which happens in many cases, it can be devastating and harmful to both.
For a student, it could mean that the teacher is tougher on grading and "picks on that student." And for the teacher, it can lead to being fired!
Bottom-line, it's not worth the risk for your sister, nor for the teacher himself!
2006-12-13 00:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by msoexpert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say let her go on with what she is doing, because soon enough she will see that he isn't in to her that way. What ever you do, don't tell her not to do something that has to do with a man. I know....my mom and most of my family was against my boyfriend when I was 18 and told me not to marry him...what do you think happened. Yep, married him mostly because was told i shouldn't. Its the age now.....just let her learn her own lessions in love and be there for her when it doesn't happen the way she wants it too...good luck.
2006-12-13 00:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 1 · 6⤊ 0⤋
tell her that there are better and younger people out there and that she will find someone that is her age plus her teacher is not going to like her that way!!! my bigger brother in in love with his teacher to i think it is a little weird!
2006-12-13 00:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by !!!!Born 2 PARTY!!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is not about what you can do, it is about what she must do!
she must forget him and you need to forget about this! so just let this pass.do not get involved OK!? let things follow their natural course
2006-12-13 00:19:26 · answer #4 · answered by Stroescu T 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
smack her into reality!!! try to take her out to meet other men.
it sounds like a crush
2006-12-13 00:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋