My husband and I have 2 kids, we want a third child. Everyone seems to think 2 is enough. I hate having such a small family. I had 11 aunts and uncles and my 2 sons have one aunt and one uncle. I would like for them to have a big family because sometimes family is all you got. We are financially stable.
2006-12-13 00:02:46 · 27 answers · asked by Kendra M 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Right now we have 3 kids. My husband agreed to 1 more pregnancy, and my son and I hope twins this time (he wants brothers). I'd be very happy with 4 (5 is ok too). I'm 3 of 4. My husband is 3 of 3. We both have parents with 3 plus siblings, so a small family just wasn't for us. I love the chaos that comes with a bigger family. Big families make for wonderful holiday get togethers. And noone is ever bored!
After my second was born, people thought we were done. When we said we wanted more they'd look at us funny and ask why since I "have my boy and girl". It was never about sexes for us, it was just having children in general. Girl or boy, children are wonderful to have around. And like you said, one day we'll be gone and they'll still have each other.
2006-12-13 00:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea. It depends on if I find a husband or not! lol
I have one already, and I would like at least 3 all together I think, maybe. You are right, 2 seems like not enough, and 3 is more, but not going too overboard. I come from a family of 5 kids, so I'm used to having them around. And you are right. Family is a lot of times the only people who are actually there for you, no matter what. If you and your husband both want a third, go for it! You don't have to follow everyone else's beliefs and opinions.
2006-12-13 09:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have 3 boys and my wife really wants to try for a little girl. (She's the youngest of 8 and loves a big family too. I have 2 younger brothers and lots of aunts, uncles and cousins.) I think I'm convinced that we're just genetically disposed to having boys, but having a 4th would be o.k. with me. That's kind of been our thinking all along. What bothers me is the pregnancy part of it. It gets harder and harder each time because she's getting older so it's tougher on her body, and you have more kids to take care of while you're pregnant. That being said, I think we will probably have 4.
Just so you know...the third one seems to put you "over the top". It seems like the work load increases exponentially with the third one. With two you can each take one, but with the third it's not so easy. Going to the store, doctor appointments, etc. get tougher. And my wife swears the laundry has tripled with the extra little guy around. We wouldn't change it for the world though - we love it!!
2006-12-13 08:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by DGS 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 1. My boyfriend has 1. They are 6 years apart. I loved being pregnant and I had a really easy birth. If I had it my way I would want like 2 more. I like big familys and I say the more siblings you got the better. I would have ben lost with out my brother growing up. If you have time and money for more children I say go for it. Family is all you got, so the more the merrier!
2006-12-13 08:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think I'll have any more than my one child. I've had too many complications with pregnancy, and would be considered "high risk" by the time I even considered another child.
But, the size of your family is a personal decision that only you and your hubby should make. What everyone else thinks is irrelevant. I had only one brother, but plenty of 1st, 2nd, and 3rd cousins, great aunts and uncles, and friends.
As it was, I always felt that my brother was my mother's favorite. My father made it blatantly clear that I was his favorite. I never want my child to feel that she is not loved as much as her sibling.
2006-12-13 08:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by LadyJag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd love to have 4 kids, my husband's happy with that too, although we agree that we'll have to see where we get to financially after each addition!
And of course I'm only 6 months pregnant with #1 and everyone keeps telling me to wait and see if I still want more after this one! But I've been around babies my whole life and love them and have wanted to have my own for so long now.
I think also since we've realized that our kids probably won't have ANY 1st cousins at all, since my isster-in-law is already in her late thirties, single, and "not ready to settle down" (it will probably be too late by the time she decides on anything) and my sister says she doesn't want any, she's happy with her cats.
I always wished I'd had more siblings since ith my sister the relationship was always strained as we were pretty much competing head-to-head our entire childhood.
But Family is so important, I think if you REALLY can handle it, and your TRULY want it, then it's nobody's business but yours & your husband's.
Good luck!
2006-12-13 09:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by Maddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 all girls ages 20, 12, 6, and 20 months. Do I think 4 is to many possibly but because mine are so far apart in age it has been pretty easy. I can tell you that college is sooooo expensive and that it is best not to have them to close togeather so you never have 2 in at the same time. Otherwise I would say have as many as you feel you can handle.
2006-12-13 08:36:43 · answer #7 · answered by GI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let anyone else try to pressure you into THEIR idea of a perfect family.
We had a son first and then a daughter. When my mom arrived, just a couple of hours after my second was born, practicly the first thing out of her mouth was, "oh good, one of each.....now you can be done." That was HER idea of the perfect family.....not ours. We had a third (another girl) 2 years later. (And she was SHOCKED and thought we were joking when we told her we were PG!)
You have to do what feels right in your heart and mind. If you feel that your family is not complete yet and that you can handle it financially, go for it! I couldn't imagine life without our third child!
2006-12-13 08:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I just had my second child, and would someday, possibly like a third child. While pregnant, some of my family was actually suggesting I get my tubes tied after I had my second child. Needless to say I did NOT get my tubes tied and would still like a third child someday, whether my family supports my decision or not. No matter what, it is your own personal decision and no one can make it for you. If that is what you want - by all means go for it!!!
2006-12-13 08:09:10 · answer #9 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have three children... you can never satisfy everyone.. just think about yourselves for once. When we had one child.. and this probably happened to you... everyone asks when will you have another one.. he or she needs a little brother or sister. Then you have your second one, and everyone is fine with that.. When we found out we were pregnant with our third, everyone was almost shocked, ANOTHER ONE? Like it's any of their business. I would like another baby, but will have to wait and see what the future holds.
You can't please everyone... if you want another child, it doesn't matter what other people say, the only ones that matter are yourself and your husband. Go for it, and tell everyone else to worry about their own lives.
2006-12-13 08:08:54 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋