Too much to do at home, can't get motivated...Kids fight as soon as they get home... work is boring... no attention from my partner hardly... yet I know there are many people much worse off than I am, just could do with some cheering up. Who else feels the same?
2006-12-13 00:00:26 · 26 answers · asked by sonia 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're not alone. My kids are grown up. My husband is the grumpiest, most miserable, unfeeling, old man in the world! Never shows any kind of affection. Never tells me he loves me. Criticises me whatever I do. All he wants to do is spend every evening slumped in front of the TV soaps. No conversation. Tried talking about it, but he just gets defensive and then aggressive (verbally not physically) every time. Has just about destroyed all my self esteem.
So, have realised that I can't have the life I thought we would have together. So, I've gone out there and made a life for myself. Got myself part time job. Go out with my kids for evenings (he and I have kids from previous marriages, but none of 'ours' if you know what I mean). I have a widowed friend and I go out with her most weekends to the flicks, for a meal etc. I still live with him, but as soon as I can I'm out of here. I've tried everything and nothing has worked. Retail therapy, hairdoes etc are all very wel, but really are only papering over the cracks imho. For me, it's time to throw in the towel. I made that decision when I realised life would be better on my own than with him. Harder for you I know, because of your kids. But, you are not the only one uhappy in their life.
Love. xx
2006-12-13 08:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by fallen angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that you feeling low, I can feel the same way at times, and sometimes it just feels like there is no getting away from it.
What I suggest is think of the things that make you happy, do something you know you enjoy and you know will cheer you up.
Alternatively distract yourself and then you'll forget how you were feeling.
If you feel you have no one to talk to, or no one understands, write your feelings down, go for a smoothing drive, have a hot relaxing bath, pamper yourself, have some chocolate, get a hair cute, treat yourself to something nice from the shops, or go away for a few days, see some friends, may be even exercise as that can change your mood too.
2006-12-13 00:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
probably most of the world at one time or another! it's the time of year for it as well - cold and windy and dark - its hard to get motivated in the winter.
Forget the housework, it'll still be there to do tomorrow, insist your partner looks after the kids for the night and pamper yourself, lie in the bath with a nice glass of wine and treat yourself to an early night.
Then tomorrow, when you feel rested,write a list of all the things you need to do and mark them off one by one so you feel satisfied with what you've done.
It cant be easy juggling home, a partner, work and kids so give yourself a pat on the back and make sure you find some time for yourself
2006-12-13 00:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by monkeynuts 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
properly, expensive, you actually are depressed. without itemizing out the DSM criteria as such the mere undeniable truth that (a million) this is lasted 6 months, (2) you placing apart, (3) no longer motiated, (4) generic oversleeping, (5) some type fof universal social pressure i.e. human beings searching at you, and so on. and (6) you've been off antidepressants indicating a clinically determined condition--easily signifies that the melancholy has lower back and also you aren't to any extent further functioning properly. examine in consisting of your wellbeing care service and come again on your meds and also you'll function more desirable ideal.
2016-10-18 05:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what babe......yer not on yer own!
I think every one feels the same at this time of year. If your feeling unfulfilled in your life girl, make some whacky new year resolutions for yourself and give family life a bit of a shake up!!!
Why not try retraining as something else, taking a class to do something mad you'd never dream of ( pole dancing, tai chi, line dancing ) take up yoga!
Delegate all the household stuff to your fella and the kids and tell them your getting yerself a life!
Good luck hun, if yer anything like me you'll smile at this answer and then think.......'no I couldn't do tha!' - Maybe next year.....
Good luck - from 1 bored mum to another!
2006-12-13 00:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by EMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen we all go through that phase. If you feel down- why do you want to know if someone else feels the same as you? This will only keep you down. Take a nice hot bath, get pretty( fix yourself up -for you, not for anyone else) and take a long walk at your nearest park; look at nature, smell the flowers- look at the little things in life, I KNOW YOU'LL FEEL MUCH BETTER, and will see things in another light.
Hope you feel better- we are all in the same boat.
2006-12-13 00:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by Taz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to the feeling.if your partner is not too eager get away by yourself even if it is for a few hours & do something that you like.I think you need a break from your normal daily routine & a compliment from the hubby or the kids works just as well.dont always depend on others to keep you happy make yourself happy. Buy something for you (& maybe for him) e.g. something sexy, sensual, that will make you feel good about yourself.
as woman, we often feel the need to be needed by others however, we are also need. In short you are running on your spare battery and you need to recharge - soon.
2006-12-13 00:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by noodles 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are telling the story of around 85% of married women.
We all have the same feeling, my advice to you is take care of yourself, just pamper yourself, have a hair cut, wear make up even when u are at home, find a new hobby it will keep you busy.
That is all you can do, cause nothing will change, kids are kids, and man are men, just spice up your life
2006-12-13 00:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some girlfriends to hang out with and do things together that are positive. Don't turn to cheating cuz that will make things worse. Have you tried talking to your partner and let him know how you feel? I f you have and he still ignores you tell him you are unhappy and you are considering to move on. Just light a fire under him.
2006-12-13 00:12:19 · answer #9 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best medicine is fresh air. I know it seems strange, but you HAVE to get out of the house - leave everything for a little while, take the kids to a park, anything, just GET out..
Being stuck in those 4 or 10 walls can drive any sane woman DILLY!! Thank God for the internet!
2006-12-13 00:09:28 · answer #10 · answered by Sugar 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋