2006-12-12 23:57:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When your parent pre-arrange the marriage at your birth.
2006-12-12 23:59:28 · answer #1 · answered by Feeling new @ 42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot more to it than just that "special" feeling we call love. You have so many things to consider. Although it isn't always the case, it is many times helpful if the person comes from a somewhat similar background as you. Many people might disagree, but not having the stress of dealing with, say, how to celebrate Christmas AND Hannuka (sp), or what faith to raise your children in, sure doesn't hurt.
Also, you need to look objectively at the person. do they have a bad temper or abusive tendencies? Are they immature? Can you live with the little things they do that only mildly annoy you now?
Do they have similar goals as you? Marrying someone expecting to live a hip life in the city, only to discover that they want 3 kids, a minivan, and suburban life, can be a pretty hard thing to deal with.
Can you work together to resolve problems, or do you just scream at each other till exhaustion and then drop it? Communication is the MOST important thing in marriage. Without it, you will get nowhere. With it, no matter what problems arise or differences you may have, you can work through them.
2006-12-13 08:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by hdgrrl72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have no doubt at all that you want not suppose to marry him. When you can see yourself with in 60 years & still look at him as if it's the first time you fell in love. When you can see yourself waking up by his side everyday of your life. Then you hav efound the one!
2006-12-13 08:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by DEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't think your heart will lie to you. Think about not marrying that person, what do you feel? That should give you your answer if you cannot imagine spending one more day without pledging your love to him/her by taking vows with them. I felt nervous before my wedding, (and during), but after wards, I knew I made the right decision. I felt it in my heart. Good luck!
2006-12-13 08:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by Megan P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can see spending the rest of you life with them or more importantly if you can't see not spending the rest of your life with them. If this were the person that you were meant to marry you would just know and not have to ask this question.
2006-12-13 08:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahhh the overthinking mind.
you dont know, there is no one and only person for us. really it comes down to if you think you enjoy this person enough to be able to put up with the rubbish life throws at us.
no one seems to be interested in that anymore though.
2006-12-13 08:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by delprofundo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't just marry them and find out latter when you go to court for the divorce
2006-12-13 08:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by lonetraveler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best answer is when you feel totally comfortable and want to be around that person all the time. They make you feel better.
2006-12-13 08:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you can't imagine a future without him. when you can't wait another day to start spending your life with him. when you can't keep from saying "i love you". when you can be completely open, honest, and vunerable, but not worry that it'll come back to bite you in the ***.
2006-12-13 08:01:42 · answer #9 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be the bloke at the front of the church with the suit on!
2006-12-13 08:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋