I have been married 2 years and half after a year of dating.My husband is an okay guy and i thought i could grow to love him and be sextually attracted to him but it has not happened yet.I do love him as a friend though and i respect him.I ran into an old flame and first true love at work he is my boss indirectly though.What started as flirting has turned in to feelings all over again since we go to lunch , an occasional drink, see each other everyday, and work together.I feel awful because i am married.I am afraid something will happen on a buisness trip? We have been on them before but this time he picked me to go along with him alone.?
2006-12-12 23:56:59 · 12 answers · asked by Moria B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honestly my hubby is my best friend and i thought i could work on falling in love with him romantically.
2006-12-13 00:03:44 · update #1
A lot of flirting has gone on with the ex. bf and he hits on me almost every day.
2006-12-13 00:06:33 · update #2
You shouldn't have married ur husband if you didn't love him that way, and you made a commitment to him, and you should stick by it! It might not be a good idea to go if you are attracted to another man, but it is your choice what you do. You don't have to mess around with this guy.. there is a such thing and willpower.. It helps other girls keep there legs closed
2006-12-13 00:03:30 · answer #1 · answered by October Sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your situation, but your husband is your best friend, if that's the case the foundation of any relationship is trust, and the question you have to ask yourself is, would I want my best friend/husband to betray my trust.., Now as far as your 1st love/boss that can be a very touchy situation, first he knows you are married and I can only assume since he was your first true love he knows you still have feelings for him, but personally if he really wants to be with you then he will respect your marriage and suggest that you settle that situation before indulging in an extra marital affair, the feelings are always great when it's forbidden, believe me I know and temptation has it's price. But the question you have to ask yourself overall is it really worth it. Good luck!
2006-12-13 00:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by Fe-Fe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing just happens. You make an active decision. Do not pul this weak "it just happened" crap. If you do this there is no turning back. At least have the courgage to leave your husband before you do anything. Also consider what kind of guy this really is if he is willing to cheat with you. What does this tell you about this "prize" of a man you found. You are confusing lust for love. One is important the other can lead you to misery and never really be satisfied.
2006-12-13 06:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 06:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to be aware of one thing: If you go, it's GOING to happen.
If you can live with that, if you can place your marriage at risk, then go.
If you can control yourself, then go.
If you've always wondered what it would be like to be with him ..
Don't go.
You could tell him you feel uncomfortable because you've noticed there are "feelings" from both sides. If you're making excuses now that hubby is an "okay" guy but you never really loved him, I guess your mind's made up though.
2006-12-13 00:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand. If you didn't love your husband why did you marry him? The grass is always greener on the other side, plus he's an ex for a reason. Your going to have to decide what is more important, your husband or a fling. If your unsure of yourself, don't go on business trip.
2006-12-13 00:29:12 · answer #6 · answered by yooper guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what the question is. "Something will happen" is such a passive phrase -- it's like saying you have no control over the situation. But, you do have control. If you decide to sleep with your ex, it's because you decided, not because "it happened". Own your choices. You chose to be married, so behave like a married woman, not a teenage girl whose hormones are in overdrive.
2006-12-13 00:16:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about what you are sacrificing if you act on impulse and you need to put yourself in your husband's place. Don't have an affair! If you want out, then you need to do so, but don't hurt him anymore by cheating on him. If you don't want the marriage then it is unfair to him to prevent him from finding somebody that will love him the way he needs to be loved. Do the right thing....let him go and be happy with a woman that appreciates him!
2006-12-13 01:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like to us if there was any type of tempation there dont u think he might possibly try something at lunch? inless hes not the type that likes to show much of mushy stuff in front of public
if u think there might be some type of tempation then maybe you should get seperate rooms on this trip? and why is u feel awful bc your married?is it by chance u still have feelings for this gentelman? and yet its not that u feel awful possibly bc u feel guilty?
2006-12-13 00:02:50 · answer #9 · answered by Angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we make our own choices and our own destiny's. it is just lust, not love. why set yourself up for this, don't go. stick by your hubby he is the man u married. sometimes we make ourselves believe we don't love someone, and we really believe it, but it has alot to do with what we are telling ourselves. u know it will happen and your marriage will never be the same.
2006-12-13 04:07:36 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋