Me and my partner split up last night and i didnt want it to happen but he did,we still have to live at the same address because we are stopping with a friend at the mo.we even have to sleep in the same bed cos its a 1 bed flat and she sleeps on the settee.what should i do
2006-12-12 23:45:26 · 21 answers · asked by SAMANTHA H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you can try find somewhere else to stop, i can understand its probably a very sticky situation but try sort things out so atleast while youre there its not akward
2006-12-12 23:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by raeanne2710 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always hard to go through a break up and in your situation things are even tougher as you still have to share a flat and a bed with them.
My advice would be to allow yourself to grieve and it is absolutely natural to feel hurt, vulnerbale, lonely and scared. But be rest assured that (although at the time it never feels this way) these feelings will ease away and your heart will become stronger.
Eventually you be able to look back and smile at the good memories and forget the bad.
Try to be brave, try and distract yourself with other things, fill your mind up with distractions so that you don't end up focussing too much on your current situation.
Go out, see friends, try something new, and try to laugh, even smiling in the face of it is good for you.
2006-12-13 07:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was just about to ask the same question!!! my partner is ringing me today and i think he is going to end our 7 yr relationship, so i was going to ask how do you mend a broken heart? This is a very hard one indeed, cant you go and live somewhere else? its going to be very hard for you seeing him, let alone sleep in the same bed!!! I know what you are going through i am going through pretty much the same, its hard but with time it will get easier for you, Good luck and keep smiling!!!
2006-12-13 07:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by ann_jacques 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your situation. This is going to be a learning experience for you. Keep in mind that no matter how bad you feel right now, it won't last forever. That should make it a lot more tolerable. You should experience everything in life. Even the bad. The bad stuff is what strengthens us. The next time this happens you'll be better prepared for it. You'll know more or less what to expect. Keep your chin up as best as you can. This is not fatal.
2006-12-13 07:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by Big R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
back off for a few days and let him know you're doing fine - kinda like, I don't know what came over me - I woke up this morning and felt great! Back off again and within 48 hours he'll be begging for getting back together..... now, hopefully you'll set some boundaries around your willingness to take the guy back... that is a question I will leave to you and your girlfriends... you should consider discussing them there boundaries before you miss the opportunity to get them established! Be Strong!
2006-12-13 07:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by D. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With out knowing the exact reason he broke up with you its hard to tell, right now you both need to distance yourselves from each other, is the friend you are staying with his friend or yours? If it is your friend then I would ask him that since he has made the choice to separate that he needs to leave. If it is his friend then hold your head up high and find somewhere else to go.
You need space and time to grieve so you then can move on to greener pastures. Take care and good luck.
2006-12-13 07:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by cheekychick4u2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I reckon you guys just needed to cool it off. After doing that maybe you guys could talk then comes the best bit. Make up sex!!! This really helps sooth down the angry words that was exchanged. No matter how big the fight is you guys could still work it out by talking.
2006-12-13 20:53:55 · answer #7 · answered by Macky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him, find out what the problem was and if it can be fixed. My boyfriend and I broke up 3 yrs ago over something silly. We both still loved each other and we kept in touch. We talked about what had happened and we got back together and engaged. If its worth working out - do it. If not, move on.
2006-12-13 07:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill Out
2006-12-13 07:48:31 · answer #9 · answered by amyirmanmamansoaam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Last time,I split with my ex girlfriend,she dumped me.I went out same night and met three hours later my present girlfriend.She is 10 times better.....I get knock down,but I get up again..... :-)
2006-12-13 07:50:52 · answer #10 · answered by Mate M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋