i'm married ..but in love with someone else also.
2006-12-12 22:58:09 · 34 answers · asked by Blossom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You'll have to choose, its not fair to the people involved.
2006-12-12 22:59:50 · answer #1 · answered by Rocky 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Weigh the pros and cons of both persons. If you do not love your spouse then I suggest divorce and let them move on with their life. If you want to work things out with your spouse, let the lover know that you have decided to do that but remember there may be some issues the lover may have for even though they know you are married, they still may feel betrayed (which can cause a few problems). If you decide to be with the lover, just remember that person may not always be faithful to you. If your lover get themselves involved with a marry person what makes you think they will not do it again. Normally, getting involved with a married person is exciting so your relationship to your lover may become bored. Second, the grass is not always greener on the other side. You may think you in love until you actually be in a relationship with the person. You may see the real deal. If you are serious about quitting the affair. Knock it off with the lover first and you and spouse sit and talk about things to add more spark into the relationship. If you don't quit the affair you can be headed to disaster. Good Luck.
2006-12-12 23:25:02 · answer #2 · answered by Shay 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You knew what going to get you into this when you married this woman. You knew that you can say no I am not ready to get married and I am not ready. But you didn't why? because you truly in love with your wife. Now seeing someone else??? You should found out that if you do want to someone else you should divorce first that better than be with 2 people.
2006-12-13 04:14:51 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe take a look at what is wrong with your marriage. It can't just be you. Talk to your husband (don't tell him about the affair). Is he willing to talk? What part do you play in the marital problems. Get marital counseling if you need to.
Why did you stray in the first place? What need is this other man filling in your life? Is there some way your husband can fill that need? If he can, read on.
People get the false notion that one person can fill all needs for another. That is a pretty tall order. We are sexual and social beings. We are physical, emotional, mental and spiritual all at the same time.
There is no pat way for you to deal with this. You need to do some soul searching to find the answers to the above questions. And, no matter what the answer, you are the one who will live with the consequences, positive or negative. So, think about it all.
Good luck with your decisions.
2006-12-12 23:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
try to find out why your having the affair in the first place,do you still love your wife?do you want to lose her?how long have you been married?are you having problems,you cannot have two women it isn't fair to anyone and everyone will get hurt eventually,stay away from the"other"woman until you decide what you really want and if you pick your wife you had better work on the problems,people are human and these things do sometimes happen,but if they happen more than once its time to give up on the marriage and let your partner and yourself find happiness elsewhere
GOODLUCK AND HOPE THINGS TURN OUT OK!
2006-12-12 23:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by jewel 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First. Be honest to your spouse. Then be honest to the one youre in love with. Then look, who is more sincere, and love you more. So that you can choose.
But you must remember your child if you have any. Remember also your future, when you become a wringkly old man / woman, will this love you feel still exist? Or perhaps thats just short term desire?
Don't loose them both. Choose.
2006-12-12 23:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by buzzrina 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to start fresh. Choose who you love, be honest with them both, and yourself. Cheating seems great because you can have the best of both worlds, but you obviously don't understand what you are putting on the line. You are killing the importance of your marriage, and you should have had a divorce before doing this to your husband/wife. Own up to your choices and be honest to everyone.
2006-12-12 23:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by Brit 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get a divorce and left the "someone else". As you don't deserve any truth love from these two women.
2006-12-13 18:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either end your marriage, or end the affair. You are being an immature jerk to both of these women. Especially your wife. I hope there are no kids involved.
You can't have it both ways forever. Your wife deserves alot better from you. You know what you have to do, just do it.
2006-12-12 23:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by Firespider 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Stop your affair now and get back with the hubby. If you find you are unable to do this then ask him for a divorce and DO NOT make it a rough divorce as its all your fault.
2006-12-12 23:48:33 · answer #10 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since you may have agree to start with it, DONT QUIT...
Just continue and enjoy it, you'll end with a normal separation without hurting anyone...
So, you guys still remain as friend instead of enemies, even in future...
Trust me.....
2006-12-13 17:30:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋