ok i asked a question last night didn't quit find what i was looking for, but it was about my husband and the girl who took is viginity. I don't have any reason to be jealousy he say's i was his first love and iknow he realy loves me, but why am i so jealous over her and the one who walks my us, i think i am inscure but so damn jealous how can i just get over it. He love's me the i know, but is this the bipolar that i have fault or is there somthing so wrong with me.
2006-12-12 21:48:15 · 9 answers · asked by babylove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hai Baby love,
Nothin is wrong with you.U have so much love for him so your possesive.But too much possesiveness may your realtionship.What u think you have not got where she has got..so you try to improve... if you feel that way.
2006-12-12 21:57:08 · answer #1 · answered by s s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First why and the hell did you two talk about past sex partners. That was the past and neither one of you need to get into it.
Are you insure? Yup you are. Are you jealous? Yup you are. Why? Possibly it could be a few reasons. One you wish you had been his first and only. That is normal to want but that is a dream world. Second might be he had sex with another and maybe you never had.
Get over it. You both are together. The past can not be changed but your future can be ruined by it if you let it.
Move on and love each other
2006-12-12 23:14:56 · answer #2 · answered by Mit 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Jealousy is a reaction to a perceived threat--real or imagined--to a valued relationship or to its quality. A survey of marriage counselors indicates that jealousy is a problem in one third of all couples coming for marital therapy. This helps explain our fascination with stories about the wild things some people are driven to do.
Jealousy lies somewhere in the gray area between sanity and madness. Some jealous reactions are so natural that a person who doesn't show them seems in some way "not normal." Others seem so excessive that one doesn't need to be an expert to know that they are pathological. A classic example is the man who is suspicious of his loving and faithful wife that he constantly spies on her, listens in on her phone conversations, records the mileage in her car for unexplained trips--and despite her repeatedly proven fidelity continues to suspect her and suffer from tremendous jealousy.
It is important to differentiate "normal" from "delusional" jealousy. Normal jealousy has its basis in a "Real threat" to the relationship; delusional jealousy persists despite the absence of any real or even probable threat.
The good news is this: By recognizing the signs of romantic jealousy, by realizing what feelings are normal and abnormal, and by examining the roots of our jealous feelings, we can effectively learn to cope with it by changing our behavior. Believe it or not, like other difficult emotional experiences, jealousy can be a trigger for growth, increased self-awareness, and greater understanding of both your partner and your relationship.
Whatever it is that draws two lovers to each other will create the character of the jealousy they may experience. Let me demonstrate this statement by an exercise. Think back to the time you first met or got to know your mate and try to recall as best you can the way you felt. What was it that most attracted you? What was it that made you think (right away, or at some point later) that this was the person with whom you wanted to share your life? What was the most important thing the relationship gave you? A feeling of security? Of being respected and listened to? Of being desired or adored?
Now switch back to the present and consider the primary component of your jealousy--the most painful thoughts and feelings associated with your jealousy and consider if they are really worth the effort to even think about it?
Furthermore, it's a reminder that you didn't just happen to be in this relationship--you chose to be in it. Something in you attracted you to your mate. Something in you makes you experience jealousy. That something is your romantic image.
So go ahead and love your husband and bury the past its not worth it.
Good Luck>r
2006-12-13 00:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by Rahul 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you taking your medication?? That was his past, he is with you, he chose you over anyone else so stop being jealous or you will ruin your relationship with him. What else do you need to know if you cannot control this then go see a counselor. No reason to be jealous.
2006-12-12 21:58:29 · answer #4 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's normal to be jealous what you need to do is forget the past look to the future and don't talk about sexual partners with your husband ever.
2006-12-12 21:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling, and keep in mind to never ever discuss matters that may cause bad feelings (this is especially true of sexual things) jealousy is a hideous green eyed monster that can eat you alive. You must get these feelings out of your mind and quick
2006-12-12 23:54:10 · answer #6 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He married you, not her ... men dont form the attachment that women do for their first love ... he is more at risk of losing you to the guy who took your virginity than you are to lose him to her. Dismiss it from your mind, she is no threat to you ... virgins are notoriously poor lovers because they have no experience ... you have experience and time with your man on your side, so just mkae love to him and stop asking questions about the past ... it IS the past for a reason.
2006-12-12 22:18:06 · answer #7 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get into some therapy, before you ruin a good relationship with your pointless jealousy.
2006-12-12 22:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you're insecured.... But being bi-polar is normal for you to have mood swings. Try not to fret about it.
2006-12-12 22:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋