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I was raped and got pregnant I had my baby 10 weeks ago she is beautiful i love her so much i dont even consider her to be my rapest's child she is my child only not his . I do consider myself a virgin even though i have a child but its not like im the virgin mary. its not like i chose to have sex i was raped and thats that. i was raped by an ex boyfriend. has anyone ever been in this kind of situation.

2006-12-12 21:35:28 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

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you can class yourself as a virgin sweetie, technically youre not, but if i was in the same situation as you then i would probably also class myself as a virgin. im so sorry that you had to go through that. you are a very strong woman. congrats on your little princess hun, xxx

2006-12-12 22:04:28 · answer #1 · answered by fanlight 3 · 2 0

Years ago a young lady claimng that she was a virgin because God had forgiven her of her past. In that sense that is understood but still physically she did have sex and is not a virgin. If someone ever asked her 'if she ever had sex before', she would have to say "yes". Otherwise her salvation testimony would become void. Remember God would not want her to lie. In my opinion desiring to be labeled a virgin carries too much useless weight ( if you are speaking from a moralistic view), because true love does not judge and only God can judge your heart or intentions. If you don't believe in God then you certainly should have no problem with how people view you with the choices you've made from a moral stand point or because of your life's situation. You literally do not have to answer to ANY other human for your life or choices. Even if you one day come to believe that maybe you had some responsibility for getting pregnant or not. My advice is to first examine why you need to be considered a virgin. Could it be to avoid opinions or responsibility? It's time to focus on the call of being a good parent to your baby before you become consumed with mundane matters that will not aid you in performing that blessed task. I am very sorry for the act of violence against you just remember wonderful things can come from bad events. And I'm sure that you now agree it has, congratulations on your beautiful baby!

2006-12-12 22:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 1 0

I understand you totally, I was raped by one of my ex husbands friends and became pregnant myself however I lost the child. I think it is very brave of you to keep the child and I consider you as still a virgin, as you never wished to he sex with this man. I hope you are getting help to deal with this rape and the birth of the child as it must be hard to deal with even when you seem to love the child so much. I wish you all the best and if you ever need to speak to someone about this im here.
Good Luck and Enjoy your child the first year is so special.

2006-12-12 21:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by laurenj677 2 · 3 0

i imagine virginity is more desirable of a psychological state than actual. maximum persons imagine if a woman bleed on first sex she is virgin which isn't authentic. a woman gained't bleed even than she is virgin which has been been proved by using present day medical sciences. In todays international the position there's a lot crime and melancholy, it really is so undesirable that knowledgeable societies are also tormented by this manace. In ny each minute there's a rape. So how can one say undesirable ingredient about the adverse ladies who wade through on the fingers of undesirable human beings. Afterall a boy get a spank on the buttock for sex yet a woman is pragnant after that. be affected human being with ladies. thanks

2016-10-18 05:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

I'm sorry this has happened to you but I'm sure the little girl you have joy in your life, as for the virgin part technically, your not physical but mentally you still are because you didn't make love was just a act you didn't give your self to him, and have the feelings of it. I would even say you are like the girl that had some kind a accident. just my option. Thank God from moms like you and you didn't just get reed of it when it got tuff, God bless you and your daughter

2006-12-12 21:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by Lara <:(((>< 4 · 1 0

of course they have since way back before u were born. Love ur baby. it is only yours. and every one knows u r not a virgin if u have a baby. but in this situation. u did not give consent so have u ever been to the rocky horror picture show? if not then yes u r a virgin.

2006-12-12 21:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by someones sister 4 · 0 0

I was once raped myself, I didnt get pregnant, and I dont consider it to have been sex and I also wasnt a virgin either. Rape you don't give consent to. I wish you the best of luck to you and your baby! Merry Christmas!

2006-12-13 10:55:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

im sorry you went through this but you have proved that amazing things can happen even through the hardest times!

did the pregnacy help you over come the rape or did it take longer? ive always been curious as to it helping healing.

yes you are a virgin in you mind, but as far as it goes medically your not.

2006-12-12 22:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

As everyone else has said you would still consider yourself a virgin because you have not as of yet "made love"

I hope your daughter grows up to be as brave and courageous as her Mummy
Congratulations!!

xx

2006-12-12 22:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Technically your not a virgin anymore, but it comes down to the way that you see it. If you want to think of yourself as a virgin then you are

2006-12-12 21:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5 0

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