Don't judge please.I've though about it long and hard and think i'm ready.I discussed it with my bf and he says we can get by financially.We both work.He's 23.I know it's early,But we have been together for 2 and a half years.Please just give you're opinions and not rude judgements.I said wer'e thinking about it,not
alraedy decided.people who had early pregnancies please answer and tell me about it!?
Thank you!
2006-12-12 21:24:44 · 15 answers · asked by joe 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
im 19 now and preganant...ill be 20 by the time i give birth...my boyfriends 22...it's all up to you...personally i did college for a semester and decided to take off...i work now and are combined income will work us out financially...everyones different---you may not want to do the whole party college life thing---and want a family instead---i say... think about it thoroughly and go with your heart ---your an adult now!!! p.s your obviously doing something right if you havent been pregnant before and are probably have unprotected sex!!!
good luck and god bless you!!!!!
2006-12-13 01:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by somebodysmamasoon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try getting married and see if you can handle that commitment first. If you are going to go ahead and have a baby, it's the most wonderful experience you'll ever have. It's awesome having a little person to come home to after a hard day at work that is happy to see you.
But don't forget about the financial part of it. If you both work then you'll probably need daycare unless your mom will watch him/her for you. Daycare is about $150-200 a week. Diapers are about $20 a pack (1 a week), formula is about $20 a can for powder (1 a week), clothes, shoes, toys, doctor visits... you get the point. Make sure you are ready for this kind of commitment because there won't be anymore throw some clothes on and run out the door. You have to pack a diaper bag, dress the baby, load up everything in the car. Having a child completely changes your life and your lifestyle. That's why I say make sure the person you are having a child with really wants to help you with raising it because it can be done by one person, but it is much less difficult with to.
2006-12-13 05:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by Johnny Z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Girl,
I was 19 when I got pregnant with my first child, my second at 20 and my third at 22, none of which was planned. It was really hard because I was going to college and working part time. I hid my first pregnancy from my mom up until I was 6 months pregnant, I felt the wrath when she found out. I ended up getting married to my baby's father because I didn't know what else to do (big mistake). I had a lot of rough times (financially and emotionally) but never regretted having my kids.
The only advice I can offer is that if you feel you are financially and emotionally stable and if your boyfriend and family are supportive, than that is all you need to make your decision.
Having kids is like having a full-time job with no days off and breaks, but watching them grow and learn is such an amazing thing.
2006-12-14 03:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by lnakoa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you feel ready and I know you say you are financially ready and at 19 you and your boyfriend have been together for 2 1/2 yrs, but at least think about this advice before you make a decision. I had got pregnant with my son at 18 and had him when I was 19. At that time my boyfriend and I were both working and had been together 5yrs. So here I was thinking everything would work out great. Boy was I wrong. I'm not judging you or your boyfriend but things do happen. My boyfriend at the time stayed with me 2yrs. after my son was born, then cheated, then left. Now my son is 12 and they have never really had a "real" relationship since then. His father lives about 2 miles away from us right now and hasn't seen or talked to our son in over a year. Plus not to mention all the court battles we had with child support. Anyway I just want to say please for the child's sake think about...I know 2 1/2 years is a long time to you but like I said things do happen.
2006-12-13 11:06:49 · answer #4 · answered by Em H. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were high school sweethearts, We actually got married when i was 16. I had a baby at 19 and i see nothing wrong with it. I was ready to have a baby and i think young people have an advantage to having babies because we can still sit in the floor and play with them, and we have alot of energy. I am sure having babies at that young age is bad for some people but if your mature enough i say go for it. I loved having my son and i wouldnt change it for the world. But I was married, i think you ought to take that in consideration also! Good Luck
2006-12-13 07:40:32 · answer #5 · answered by Kendra M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bringing a baby into the world is more than a financial decision. I know you think you are ready but at 19, that's what most teens think - that they can take on anything. Have you thought about the possibility that you may break-up someday, and you may be left holding a baby? I'd say wait until you two commit to each other through marriage. I know that feeling of wishing to have a baby; but we cant always trust our feelings, can we?
2006-12-13 05:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sofia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ive jus turned 22 and im 10wks preg it was a bit of a shock to me as it wasnt planned but im happy with becoming a mum.
i worry as my partner and i live seperatly (im at uni) we have been together nearly 4 yrs.
we dont have much cash and will not only need to stock up for new baby things but also buy furniture for our house.
personally id give it another 12 months so i could save up some money and/or sort out a home with enough space etc.
it would also give you and your partner time to adjust and let the idea sink in. a lot of planning now will make it so much easier when you do become pregnant.
you say you can 'get by' financially but you need to remeber to have savings for emercencies. and you will be out of work when it arrives so you would need to discuss possabiliies of you having to leave work early because of complications etc.
good luck
discuss it with your doctor or family planning advisor so you know as much as you can. can you apply for grants , benefits, get any other help
2006-12-13 06:00:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I got pregnant when I was 19. We were married 3 months before we conceived. I'm not judging, but please wait until you get married. You think you want a baby, but marriage is beautiful. First comes marriage, and then comes a baby.
My husband and I lost that baby with me only 25 weeks pregnant. Marriage is what helps me through the pain each and every day. Think about the possible outcomes...
Everything doesn't always go your way.
2006-12-13 14:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother had my older brother when she was 16, and she had me at 17. (Both planned.) Now, I'm gonna tell you things were never easy for us growing up, but we made it! We all say (my mom, brother, and I) that we're so glad that she had us young because we can relate on so much. We're SO close and I think that it's because of that.
So for you, if you guys have children now... if you really think you're ready... I say go for it! The outcome is all up to you! Your life is what you make it!
Good luck to you!
2006-12-13 06:31:56 · answer #9 · answered by *Tee*Tee* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wonderful to be young you can remember things better and relate to what your child is going through and help them out.
Don't worry about people saying you should get married
most marriages end and you're better off just not doing it really there'll be less strain and pressure without that stupid piece of documentation.
2006-12-13 06:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋