We have 2 sons just 7 & 2 years old .. I Love my wife but many a times because she is not able to bring up the kids very well .. I get irritated and frustrated and which reflects the same in the bedroom . I do not fee like having sexs because I fee irritated that she know nothing .. Is it same with other too .. How do I separate these 2 points separate?
2006-12-12 20:23:20 · 11 answers · asked by lotus_dost 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
INSTEAD OF FIGHTING YOU CAN ADVISE HER IN A CALM WAY.
2006-12-15 01:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I think your are not to blame her fully for not being Abel to Bring up the kids Properly.
You should sit and discuss Both the points Separately with your wife.check out what problems she is facing in bringing up the children.Jot down the points and Handel each one Accordingly.
Eg-Children tend to not listen to their parents with the parents tell them some thing Harshly.Talk to them softly and Politely and see the change.
Your irritation and Frustration is understood-You are not to blame.
But this also can be sorted out by talking to her about your needs in ---- and making her understand how to go about it and also see to her needs-Till you discuss and educate her about sex the problem will not get sorted out. Some people face the same problem. First Treat her as a friend and talk to her.
2006-12-12 20:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by netra k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you don't use English for your day job!!Well if I was your woman your English would have put me off totally in bed...get it..works the same way for you too!
Well why don't you handle your 2 kids 24/7 for a week and assess yourself and stop blaming your wife!Give her a hand,help her at it..be more loving n caring,she may be trying her best.By shunning her away in bed you might be irritating her too..I wish she could whack your head and separate the 2 points for you.
2006-12-13 06:53:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U are not the only couple who face this problem. We all (well almost, all married people) face this problem somwhere during the life.
I suggest, you must sit down with her and be very specific on what you feel, she is doing wrong. Then also listen to her and let her share her problems. Offer her solutuion to her problems so that she can pay better attention to Kids and U :)
I am sure, speaking out and trying to help, will resolve this problem.
2006-12-12 21:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's all upon you . the best thing you can do is do some of the house hold work your self and try to ignor some points . see it's been 7 long years and you are unable to change her , she is unable to think your way and this upsets you in one way or other. you cant change her so why dont you change your self a bit for your and your childrens sake . i am telling you with my experience
2006-12-12 20:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by gunchu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, why dont you teach her how to bring them up.explain to her in a nice way may be she will understand.getting irritated and frustrated dosent solve the problem.and please dont take these issues till the bedroom too.just put yourself in her place and think how she must be feeling apart from dealing with two small kids she has to deal with irritating mood too.i pity her.
2006-12-12 21:17:07 · answer #6 · answered by tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe its the understanding you have between her will determine both's destiny........u havnt mentioned as to wht u meant by she is not able to bring up children properly...abt sex she doesnt know but maybe she doesnt have experienced it before marriage...its not a mechanical thing that u can jst read and learn...u can try n convince her n even educate her...respect her feelings too....same goes for upbringing of children too....
2006-12-12 20:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by rajdebrain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you lack communication with each other. She's your wife right? Not just anybody, she's your other half. Try talking things with her. Maybe, she is just not aware of what is happening.
2006-12-12 20:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by mared 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi dear, i really pity on u. you men will be men alwayzz !!!
if she is not able to bring up the kids, why dont you do it urself
huh !
2006-12-12 20:27:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow are we a English major can you create a proper sentence i think your the loser
2006-12-12 20:26:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋