Should I call my wedding off?

Question

I'm getting married on Jan 31- I dread it- my wife to be and I argue constantly- I think she is in love with the idea of being married- and I just happen to be the one- I dont think she particularly loves me- she constantly insults me. But she insists since she'll be 30 in Feb, she will NOT be single when she is 30. We spend a fortune putting this wedding together, all the invites were sent out- I told her I have second thoughts- she tld me if I back out she'll sue me...My brother says get the marriage over with and file for divorce in 6 months- i might go that route- what advice would you give? I donty love her anymore- I dont even like her- but we dropped so much money on this wedding, that cant be refunded..

Answer 1

You need to get out a.s.a.p. if you don't love her just go forget about the money, money isn't everything especially when your unhappy. Get out now while you still can. Good luck

Answer 2

You can’t go into a marriage thinking that a few months later you are going to file for a divorce. You need to sit her down and talk to her about it and explain how you are feeling and find out how she feels about things. Tell her that you do not appreciate the fact that she has told you that because she will be 30 in Feb, she doesn’t want to be single. This is because it both sounds as if you are going through with the wedding just for the sake of things.

Its better that you end things now and okay if she sues you she sue you and if you lose the money so be it. But surely it’s better to do it now rather than 18 months down the line. When the two of you are at each others throats and talking to each other through solicitors and it’s costing more money.

You need to talk to her, because you both are obviously nervous and getting stressed about things which happened a lot when you are planning a wedding and the fact that Christmas is coming is just added pressure. After your chat if you still feel as if she is only marrying you for the sake of it then for you own peace of mind call it off

Answer 3

You told her you were having second thoughts about it and she say's she'll sue you if you back out that's not love. The correct response to that shoulda been her asking you why you felt that way and what can you both do to make sure this is what you want. regardless of how much money you have spent on the wedding thus far and that the invites have all been sent out I don't think it is a wise idea to go through with the wedding. If you're already arguing constantly nothing is going to change once you get married so why put yourself through that? Sure she might sue you now if you don't but once you're married, imagine all the things she can do in the divorce... Unless you have an iron clad prenup... whats yours becomes hers too and vice versa.

Answer 4

It doesn't matter how much money you have already spent on the wedding, you will just have to mark it down as a lesson learned. If I didn't love her I would call it off before Jan 1 so that everyone can be notified. As far as I know she cannot sue you for NOT marrying her. You may at the most be in titled to repaying half of the wedding expense that has been spent so far. That my friend is a whole heck of alot cheaper than divorcing in 6 months. Dump her now and be done with it. If you are not happy with her do not marry her. Good Luck with your decision.

Answer 5

I think youre right here, she is in love with the idea of being married but not to you. It really doesnt sound like shes in true love with you and this spells disaster. What is she going to sue you for; a broken engagement or a broken heart? Unfortunately, this happens all too often nowadays. The reality of this is youre probably better off cutting your losses now and call the wedding off. True, you have invested alot into this but its alot cheaper now then doing after your married as then this lady could sue you for alot more. Just tell her youll split 50/50 of the cost you two spent for the wedding but you know this would be a disaster if you two married. Just blame in on too many differences and neither her or you are to blame. Shell probably get mad and throw a temper tantrum but shell get over it and move on, and so will you. Then let her go find someone else to get married to and live happily ever after, and you can find your true love and get married to someone who wants to marry you and not the idea of being. Just tell your friends and family that both decided to call it off due to too many differences and leave it at that as its really nobody elses business but you twos. Good luck

Answer 6

You need to talk to your fiancee. You need to tell her how your feelings have changed. I am married and the word divorce isn't in my vocabulary. If you can, avoid a divorce. You haven't gotten married yet and you still have plenty of time to cancel hotel reservations, rental agreements and things of that nature. About the money situation, there are ways that you could probably get some of what you spent back, but what you don't get back is just a very expensive lesson. The lesson is : Be sure that what you are venturing into is a mutual thing. Be sure that you are both doing it for the right reasons. don't get married just to be married, because it will only lead to heart break and infidelity.

Answer 7

If you were to go though this as your brother suggested, or to though it because she threaten to sue or because you spend a fortune, you would be making a joke out of Marriage and what it stands for. Where are your morals. If you go though with this, I hope she sues the pants off of you and your brother

Marriage is a unique opportunity. We have a chance to share every aspect of our lives with another human being. We share our joys, feeling each others pain and covering each others weakness.We become ONE. You two are not even on the same planet
I would introduce her to someone else, and walk away. NO I WOULD RUN. let her do what she has to do.you will be free of someone who just doesn't give a s**t about you. She wants a husband, she doesn't want to be a wife. What do you want?
Money is just Money.

Answer 8

Damn bro, believe it or not, lots of guys are in this situation and just deal with it, deal with the abuse, its bullshit, no woman will ever ever belittle me, life's too short. It seems like she "rushed" just to get to the alter, and guess what?? next you know what she'll tell you?? she's getting old, and wants a child. Once you have a child, AND I DONT GIVE A DAMN WHAT WOMAN ON HERE GET S MAD AT THIS BUT........I have noticed a lot of my friends have kids, and it gets worse, cause the woman got what she wanted, and now feels she's got you by the balls. Do you know how many men got trapped like this?? the women first want the wedding, then the house, then the cars, then when their good and bored, they want the kids to compete with their friends kids, then when there's nothing left to "search" for, they start resenting the husbands, no one on here will tell me different, i see it every day, too bad if the truth hurts.
getting back to you, what are your folks saying??
Nothing worse than going to the alter unhappily in love, it will never work. and if you end it in six months, your guests will feel used. me personally, I'd pay her back whatever it is and say adios! Youll get over it. your brother is giving you bad advice. How on earth can a woman feel good about herself when she had to "rush" her wedding, so sad. Please don't have kids you seem really cool, and I think you are nowhere near ready. A miserable woman is worse than a disease. NO ONE should belittle you, get some pride man.

Merry Xmas

Answer 9

The divorce might cost more than the wedding itself--money is easy to replace, but if you suffer while being married to her, you cannot take that time back. You still have time! Talk to her, send out apology cards and move on with your life. Instead of tryling to help you fix the problem, she's threatening to sue you--that's already a huge red flag.

Answer 10

Are you for real? Please read your postingas though it were not yours, you would tell any other guy he is being a _________ and he should jump into a ________ and get as far away as__________ from this crazy woman. Now read that back to yourself. There is no talking to be had here other than "I'm done."
Are you for real?????seriously, get out NOW, pay up so she doesnt sue. Money is cheaper than a ruined life. For real, dude? Get out NOW! DO NOT MARRY HER! Do you know what the point of marriege is, because you guys are missing it completely.
Sounds like you are getting married for all the wrong reasons and none of the right ones. While you are in the mood to make poor decisions on your part, would you please buy me a porsche? didnt think so - and that is nothing compared to the world of hurt you are getting yourself finto.

Answer 11

so yea, drop some more money on this sinking boat and then some more when you get a divorce.

is there something mentally wrong with you?

you are marrying someone because they threatened you?
those are grounds for an anulment if you get married since you are under durress when making the decision to get married.

you don't love her and she abuses you and threatens you into marrying her and you are going for it because you already spent so much money on it, imagine how much more you will loose when you will be getting divorced from her.

drop her now and don't worry about some trivial fribilous lawsuit that she claims she wil bring about against you

stop the disaster before it starts