Ive been married before and I am engaged again (10 years between engagements) and I cant seem to make the next step to get married again. I think I may be scared? but maybe Im scared its not the right person? are you happy with the person you married? do you ever wish you had married someone else? why or why not?
2006-12-12 20:04:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you love this person then surely the next step after engagement is marriage? There is nothing to be scared of, so maybe you are having second thoughts...
2006-12-12 20:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by michelle s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married the right one. I was engaged to another man when I met my now husband. We spent some time together and I realized I wasn't going to be as happy with my fiance so I left him for the man I am now married to. Sometimes I still wonder what my life would be like if I had married my first fiance, but I would never leave my husband to find out. I love him and could never be the same without him... Maybe you are just scared or perhaps having second thoughts, really sit and think about this and hopefully it works out for you.
2006-12-13 07:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married 44 years to the same man. He is my best friend, and I am more content with him than I ever was as a young woman. Along the way, I thought of what it would be like to be married to someone else, but what I figured out was that no one person could satisfy all of the aspects of a relationship. If I were to marry someone else, he would have different "flaws" but he would still not be perfect. That made me understand that I had to work at the relationship I had rather than seek for perfection, and I had to rely on myself to satisfy my own needs rather than put it all on someone else. The other option was to be lonely the rest of my life without anyone who loved me. Happiness does not depend so much on what another person can bring to you, but depends upon what you can bring to a relationship, to what you can build together with someone.
I recommend that you attend a marriage workshop through your place of worship or if you are not religious find a workshop that is offered by the community. If you go together, you can work out what you want to gain from being with your fiance and what you want your life to be like.
2006-12-13 04:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by SympatheticEar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat, and listening to mother's voice in my head..."When in doubt, don't". so, I am not getting married
again until I know that I know it is the best thing to do with this man.
I missed my chance with a Doctor just before my first marriage, and suffered for over 20 years in a lousy financial arrangement with the one I chose ... and wondered forever what MIGHT have been....
I have a list longer of the things I want to "fix" or change about the NEW him, than the list is for reasons to stay with him for the rest of my life, and I KNOW that is WRONG...but am afraid to leave and start over, because it will kill him (bad heart) and I am afraid of being alone til I die. I am picky, and can't seem to relax--sort of compulsive--and that is a hard trait to live with, yet he is willing to do so .... not sure I'd find another who would!!! Good Luck!
2006-12-13 04:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by susieque 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not so much that I wish I'd married someone else. It's more that I wish someone else had married me. I love my wife, but she wasn't my first choice, and I don't mean that in a mean way. It's just that I was deeply in love with a girl that dumped me. I like to think of myself as mature, and that I handled it in a mature way, in that I got over it, but....I never completely got over it. Many many times I have wondered "what if I had won her back". But I didn't, and I moved on, and now I'm married to a wonderful woman, but, still, sometimes I wonder........
2006-12-13 04:21:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I picked the wrong one. I knew it but somehow i thot it wud work out at the end. It didnt and am leaving him now.
there is no one in particualr that i wish i married all i know is that it was a very bad decision i made coz i dont love him and we were so different since the word go but i thot somehow i cud change that!!
Bad Illussion!
2006-12-13 04:14:19 · answer #6 · answered by Essie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know the person i picked to get married to was not the right person, thats why we are divorced right now
live your life so you are never haunted by those two most terrible words "what if"
2006-12-13 04:09:25 · answer #7 · answered by zether 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋