one guy loves me for 5 years and proposed me for the same but I couldn't decide what to do as he is a private teacher no bright future and he is having a cruel mother. I know them all about. so plz help me in my decision should I marry him. I too having a little feeling for him but I m more serious about my future.
2006-12-12 19:55:22 · 16 answers · asked by sara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YOU ARE GOING TO MAKE YOUR LIFE HELL. WHEN YOU KNOW ALL THE PROBLEMS WHICH YOU ARE GOING TO FACE WHY YOU ARE GOING ON THAT WAY.
2006-12-16 19:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See u said that u are telling that since 5 years he loves u, in turn it means that u also love him, or else u would have already said no to him, and regarding he is a private teacher, he may be earning around 3 - 4 thousand, money only is not the thing which u have to see, because u can support him and both can live with what u have, he can tell tutions so that he can improve more, u can also do a small job wherein both can settle happily, as a small and happy life. About ur future try to save a little which would be a big - huge amount, no one in world comes with crores / lakhs of rupees, one should try to put his effort, the fruits will come to him by itself, better marry if ur parents like him, do not reject because he is a small private teacher.Regarding ur mother in law if u are nice and supportive she will also try to be like u, please do not misunderstand every one in the same way.
2006-12-13 04:05:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you can look to yourself for your bright future, not to your husband. If he is happy and contented doing what he is doing and is a loving kind person, what more do you want.
Perhaps if he is a teacher he might be a great asset, because he can teach you to have a more sophisicated understanding of English & Literature, thereby helping you to educate yourself properly to further your own career.
If he has a cruel mother, then the last thing he will want is a cruel wife. His mother won't matter if you are happy together. Don't take her so seriously.
Good luck with your decision.
2006-12-13 04:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by AJ... Australia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to let his mother or his job affect you that much. In the long run, it doesn't really matter if his mom is nice to you-you won't see her everyday anyway. And having money is important, but it shouldn't be the only thing in your decision. You have to decide if you really love him. If every day with him would be wonderful. If not, then don't marry him. I married a poor guy with a not-so-nice mother, but I'm so in love with him that I couldn't possibly care less. Every day is bliss because I couldn't ever live without him. If you don't feel the same way, then look for someone you can feel that way about.
2006-12-13 04:02:56 · answer #4 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is NO. Why do you want an execuse by asking this question in this forum when you also know that you dont want to marry this guy? There is no doubt in love and feelings cant be measured. Either you have feelings for someone or you dont have. There is nothing called as little feeling. So even if you have an ounce of doubt (which you have) dont marry him.
2006-12-13 13:39:41 · answer #5 · answered by rachanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi... Please dont marry him... you will make his and your life unhappy. Its better you tell him no now and make him sad rather than have problems in marriage where both being unhappy.
You dont seem to be in love with this guy than why even bother thinking about him. As you say your future is more important to you so be it. Find someone who will make you happy and marry him. Not this guy thats is for sure.
Hope you make the right decision.
Good luck & God Bless
2006-12-13 04:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some times the person with a bright future may make ur future dark.
he may be bright materially...no were money make a person bright...
a person with right attitude is belived to be bright.
it shows that u love money than the person...so it is advaisable to marry as per ur wish.
think if the person who u belive to be bright may become debted at any time.
it the right attitude that makes a person not the money
2006-12-13 04:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by vinod_lovesbodybuilding 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look sara right.As what u say he already wasted 5 year time to u.Why didn't u give him n yourself a chance.Who told u that's no future for a private teacher.What he earn is more than a goverment teaher u know?U don't bother about his mother.U are not marriage to her.Wasay...what future u have.So sleep with your future lor no need to married.
2006-12-13 04:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by gen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If to think from heart ,then i must say go for one who loves you and not one whom you love.So in this case just go ahead.
But what ever you have said in your question,i think you have got your answer in the question itself.See this life is long and you will meet many.So now just concentrate in your career.
2006-12-13 04:30:54 · answer #9 · answered by Avijit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then you should focus on that . you yourself know that what will be your future when you marry him . and if you think you will make him move out of the house once you get married then i think you will be wrong .
2006-12-13 04:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by gunchu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tumhari age kya he? aur us teacher ki age kya he?
dont worry about that cruel mother saas bahu thing....vo bas ekta kapoor k serials me hota he
if he really loves u then i suggest he shud come talk to ur parents.....even if his mother is cruel then it doesnt matter cause u gonna marry him ....not his mother
2006-12-13 04:11:08 · answer #11 · answered by frost fire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋