tried toys, massage oils, I need help... I've only been married for about 2 years, I want to seek elsewhere... what to do?
2006-12-12 19:48:50 · 20 answers · asked by nikpat2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to each other. Since you’re the one who is aware of the problem then I would recommend that you initiate a discussion with your husband about your sexual concerns. If you’re afraid to, then the problem that you just mentioned is not confined to the bedroom. Sex is communication and more often than not good sexual communication is reflective of good overall communication between partners. If you’re afraid to create conflict, than you will most likely shy away from one another in all areas of your life.
If your husband responds positively to discussing your sexual relationship, then you’re on your way to solving your problems. Not knowing your sexual history, I can’t comment on your experience and knowledge about sexuality. One thing you should know is that very few couples intuitively know how to pleasure each other. To create a mutually satisfying and loving sexual relationship takes awareness and knowledge. The two of you need to spend time reading about sexual techniques. By doing so, you can learn the "what and how" of sexual pleasure. If you go to our Bookstore, you can find a number of excellent books on sexuality.
Like with the above couple, I would recommend that you spend time exploring each other’s bodies. Ask each other what it is that is sexual stimulating. Demonstrate by taking your partner’s hand and placing it on the exact pleasure spot. This is the best way to improve your sexual connection.
2006-12-12 22:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a born worrier! If you not worrying about the pregnancy you are worrying about something else. Don't make a drama or crisis where there doesn't need to be one. You are both going through a lot of changes in your lives and also in your body. Life will never be the same again once the baby comes but it is all part of being a couple, you grow, evolve and change with your circumstances. Try to relax and don't over analyze things. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy!
2016-03-29 05:30:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still love him and want to be with him? If so, you should get some marriage counseling. But first, you would have to be honest with him about what's up with you. If you can't bring yourself to be honest with him and get help, then I think you really do need to call it quits. I had the same problem, also after only a couple of years. I couldn't bring myself to tell him I had a problem regarding sexual attraction but I also felt guilty about divorcing him. So instead I had several affairs and felt horrible about myself. We finally divorced. He only knows about the final affair because I told him. Why hurt him more by telling him about all the others? Later I married another man (not the guy I had the final affair with) and we are still very much attracted to each other after 12 years.
2006-12-12 20:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by PDY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you want to explore the possibiilties of saving this realtionship. Seek marriage counseling. "Re-visit" the situations that brought you together, evaluate if your schedules are intervening on your time together...or are you spending too much time together...so many things can be influencing this "rut" in your relationship...explore counseling before venturing out into the market...the guilt associated with divorce is easier to recover from than that of infidelity...Good luck.
2006-12-12 21:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by Zeus1998 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first things first make a list and try to recall why you married this man.And then go back the 24 months of marriage month by month and try to find the exact time when you lost interest in him.
This could be helpful if not you didn't lose anything because any type of annalist will ask you this question" when did it start"
2006-12-13 03:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by tonyflorida2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There needs to be more to your marrige then just sex. Sex is a bi-product of your marrage.
Look at other aspects of your marrage and see what could be causing this lack of passion.
Seek counsling.
2006-12-12 19:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it that you don't find HIM attractive, or just that you have no sex drive at all? You can't really help it if you no longer want to do it with him can you? Just get a boyfriend and hide it REALLY well, that is all you can do aside from divorce.
2006-12-12 19:52:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should look for the reaso for your status.
do u like the guy y or no ?
u should ask you self why you lost this passion ?
may be he is elfish and canot statsify you
i think communication between you would be the best answer .
speak open and you will reach a turning point
2006-12-12 20:52:12 · answer #8 · answered by stranger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a normal married women except at least you want to do something about this. I feel sorry for your husband.
2006-12-13 06:32:15 · answer #9 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you and your husband spend time together outside of the bedroom? maybe the connection isnt there anymore. to me at least, "making love" is an emotional thing as well as a physical thing. plan a date night, and do something romantic and fun together (not sexual). remember why you fell in love with him in the first place.
2006-12-12 19:55:04 · answer #10 · answered by a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋