My ex cheated on me when I was pregnant and begged me for a second chance when I discovered the truth and left him. I told him it would be very hard for me to forgive him and that things could not be the same I would have a hard time trusting him. He accepted and said he would help me and prove to me he truly loves me. Only one month has went by and he ran out on me because he said he couldn't take it anymore. That he was fed up and didn't want to hear about his mistake anymore that I should deal with it and get over it he seemed very cold and didn't seem like the sorry man he said he was. He some how manage to try to turn the situation around and blame me for our problems. He has left before and comes back days later to ask for forgiveness and it becomes a cycle. I don't know how to put a end to all of this he has been in my life for 15yrs do I keep forgiving him and taking him back or should I just close the door behind me and never look back? I am so hurt and confused..
2006-12-12 19:47:15 · 7 answers · asked by sadgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please Help...
2006-12-13 03:58:12 · update #1
Go ahead and do what you are doing now. He leaves, comes back, begs and you accept.
One day, you will get fed up and you will grow up and when that time comes......you will not feel weak, nor will you have the desire to take him back.
Only you will know when you are done playing his games.
2006-12-12 19:53:31 · answer #1 · answered by Staci C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are asking means you know you need to close that door. Here are some simple questions to help you answer this:
If he is hurting you, is it worth the pain to keep him?
If he keeps 'running out' on you, is he going to be there for you?
Is there something that he does, and only HE can do for you, that is worth all the pain, disruption, and fear are going to know if you stay together?
Is it possible you are just afraid to be alone?
Are you going to be able to really forgive him and NEVER bring up the fact that he has cheated again?
Get counseling, you will need the support, and it will help you identify the issues you need to work on in order to either stand alone or resume this relationship.
HTH Good luck!
2006-12-13 03:52:42 · answer #2 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
close the door behind him and don't look back
moving on means being strong and not taking him back, thats what moving on is
2006-12-13 04:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by zether 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he will never change tell him to get lost it will hurt for a while but the best thing for you is to move on try to find someone else to share your life with
2006-12-13 03:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I FEEL VERY SORRY FOR YOU! HAVING TO PUT UP WITH THIS MANS CHILDISHNESS TIME AND TIME AGAIN. REMEMBER, IT WAS YOUR EX THAT CHEATED ON YOU, AND NOT ONLY YOU BUT YOUR UNBORN CHILD. NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO TO TRY AND REBUILD YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS MAN, I CANNOT EVER SEE HIM BEING MATURE ENOUGH TO GROW UP AND ADMIT IT WAS HIS FAULT AND NOT YOURS, AND REALLY MEANING IT. I BELIEVE THE BEST THINK FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILD WOULD BE TO FORGET THIS MAN EVER EXISTED AND GET ON WITH YOUR LIVES. IT WONT BE EASY BUT I RECKON YOU MAY HAVE ALREADY MADE UP YOUR MADE. AFTER ALL, YOU HAVE REFERRED TO HIM AS YOUR "EX" WHEN YOU POSTED YOUR QUESTION!
2006-12-13 03:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by LEEANE G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If u love him then u should let him have one more chance and not remind him of the misake that he had done to u...... ANd just live a happy life.
And if u don't love him then let go.
Follow your heart.
2006-12-13 03:51:05 · answer #6 · answered by MFC 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
once acheater always a cheater, i can vouch for that, think about yourself and your child, and he not it, so suck it up and dont take him back
2006-12-13 03:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by king of spain 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋