says you are hear in the marriage only because of security? what the does this mean exactly, he says its hard to explain?
2006-12-12 19:06:12 · 16 answers · asked by endless_eternity_forever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I mean here. geez
2006-12-12 19:07:44 · update #1
He thinks you are insecure, have no self-esteem, don't know who you are, no back-bone, no self-respect or confidence.
I suggest you go to school and get a degree in something that really interests you and don't have any children yet. If you do have kids.... oh man do I feel sorry for them and you! If that's the case, pick up some hobbies and interests and sports and other extracurricular activities to get yourself stronger and more confident. Do a Mrs. Pageant. Go to a modeling shoot for yourself. Work out. Do martial arts. heck, there's so much to do! Show your man who you are and remind him why he married you in the first place!
2006-12-12 19:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could mean that he doesn’t think you are in love with him....maybe he could also be testing the waters with you, to see what you would say in reply…or he may think that you are emotionally insecure or that financially you depend on him, (which by the way is not wrong) and is the only reason you are with him. It sounds as though you don’t know each other that well and BOTH are insecure. Lastly...it could be his own insecurity showing through. if you love him, prove him wrong, but also ask him why he feels like this, then him to go away and think of a way to explain this to you. This could potentially ruin both yr future if not dealt with now or in the near future. also please keep in mind a very important factor within yr marriage, it is called "trust" question yourselves both...do you trust each other to share your most personal fears, insecurities etc with each other...good luck to you both!
2006-12-12 19:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may mean he thinks you like the money he makes. A lot of people say security instead of saying money but its what they mean. He only says its hard to explain to get out of a possibly big fight.
2006-12-12 19:14:09 · answer #3 · answered by Wenz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess that (maybe?) you are from different country, so for some reasons he doesn't fully trust you and doesn't believe that you really love him. He probably thinks that you had married with him only for some practical reasons, without loving him.
Try to remember after what he told you that? You definitely said or did something to him which made him to tell you that. If you often refuse to make love with him, he might think this way. If you are always unhappy or angry - it can be the reason too. He doesn't see enough love from you.
2006-12-13 06:11:44 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he is trying to say that the only reason you are together is because of stability. Meaning you or your spouse has something the other spouse needed and decided to stick with it.
2006-12-12 19:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by golden_moon_girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He more than likely means you are there because he brings in the bacon. You stay because of the things he provides. You stay because you know you are incapable of taking care of yourself. You stay because you haven't found anything better. You stay because the things in life are more important than love.
2006-12-12 19:13:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it means that there is no love and you are just depending on eachother for financial reasons. your relationship is in a rut. spice up your lives and try new things together. you need that spark in your marriage.
2006-12-12 19:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He thinks that you are there because the bills are paid and you dont have to worry about anything, that you are not there for the love...that is what he means...and you gotta prove him wrong!!!
2006-12-12 19:07:37 · answer #8 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you feel safe and secure with him. like financially or that you have someone to be with. its not because of love is what he is trying to say.
2006-12-12 19:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by anonymous 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Normally secutity means something stable...
Your love,house,possesions like a backstop...
2006-12-12 19:09:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋