INFIDELITY OR ALCOHOLISN???
2006-12-12 19:02:46 · 14 answers · asked by Bella 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
alcoholism IS infidelity!
When someone is drunk they cannot be personable, loving, compassionate or understanding. They are not all there and they are not all yours. After their drunkiness is over with then they are miserable and miserable to be with and they don't remember everything that's happened anyway and usually it doens't mean a thing to them.
Getting drunk is unfair to those who love you and who you're supposed to love.
2006-12-12 19:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
In general people are intensely condemning of infidelity over almost anything else. I'm really not sure why?
Infidelity could happen because of a few hours of weakness, or a specific circumstance. It can have no affect on the marriage if it is never uncovered. A person can be a wonderful, loving spouse and parent, but still have something like this in their closet.
Alcoholism is a long term behavior that impacts not just a person's marriage, but their family, career, friendships, everything. An alcoholic can be a good person after treatment, but if we are saying "tolerate", then I am assuming that the behavior will be ongoing and therefore untreated.
Infidelity typically only hurts the people directly involved (I am assuming we are not talking about extreme cases with dozens of women, STDs etc); alcoholism hurts everyone that has to have a relationship of any kind with the alcoholic - and it has the potential to cause injury or death.
If I had to choose...I'd choose infidelity. I am strong enough to bear through personal pain. I don't know if I could stand to live through the pain an alcoholic causes everyone.
2006-12-12 19:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by Zana 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Alcoholism breeds utter denial, so I like to believe that. But infidelity is ignorable with small amounts of alcohol or controlled substances, or no substances at all if both are totally satisfied with infidelity. I'm still willing to be the majority of the world would say alcohol.
2006-12-12 19:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by Singletary 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Each person has a different opinion about the issue of cheating. Things we can agree on include: 1) It's wrong, no matter who does it. 2) It's hurtful, no matter who does it. I think the cheater is to blame for their actions; no one else. However, I also think that marriages should take the time to consider one another's needs and desires and each should try to make sure their are being the best husband/wife they can be. This is one step to divorce-proofing (or cheat-proofing) your marriage. I think that cheating is the worst thing you can do to your spouse, but if I or my spouse were to cheat, I would hope that it could become a one-time thing and that we could work through it and use the situation to strengthen our marriage. I don't think cheating is a reason to leave a relationship because I think fighting for the one you love is worth it. But, if a cheater leaves you, I find it wise not to try to win them back. Let them go and move on.
2016-05-23 17:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tolerate either. The smell of the alcohol on the guys breath constantly, and filling up the room would make me sick to my stomach...and I'd never forgive a guy if he flat out cheated on me...not now, not ever.
2006-12-12 19:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by Little Jeannie 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Alcohol addiction is a disease not a betrayal of trust. Infidelity is a betrayal of trust.
2006-12-13 03:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by tonyflorida2 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
gawd...12 steps and yer out!!
no seriously...
both are horrible..one you can work through depending on the type of infidelity and one is an illness.
you got me..I lived though infidelity soooo..I pick that...
2006-12-12 19:06:16 · answer #7 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I sure wouldnt want either of them . I am already with one that does infidelity, but not an alcohlic. I drink occasionally but not to often. you wont forgive cheating, but acholic you can get through.
2006-12-12 19:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by endless_eternity_forever 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i can tolerate alcoholism, will never tolerate infidelity
i can forgive an alcoholic but not a cheater
2006-12-12 19:04:57 · answer #9 · answered by zether 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Would it be fair to say both? Alcohol, there's always help.
2006-12-12 19:04:59 · answer #10 · answered by nurse33 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋