I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now and i still canot get past the fact that he has been married befor.
2006-12-12 18:58:59 · 8 answers · asked by pepper h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why does this bother you so much? Everybody has a past, whether good or bad. Does he still see her or something? If not, I say forget about the past - who's he with now?
2006-12-13 02:04:50 · answer #1 · answered by PAMELA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a subconscious fear, and really only one that you can dig deep enough to find an explanation for. You need to figure out what exactly about the fact that he has been married before bothers you. Is it that he loved someone else enough to marry them, and you feel you might not be marriage material? Is it more about the reasons why his first marriage ended? Maybe it's simply because it's something you would never do in those same circumstances...so it's hard for you to understand.
Look for when it starts to bother you, hopefully that will help pin-point the 'trigger'....your guard is up for some reason I feel...it's your intuition-so really look, and listen.
2006-12-12 19:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by Little Jeannie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has no kids from first marriage and the ex stays outta your face, no prob. if he has kids and they will be in your lives let him know from jump street what you expect from him and them so you are both on the same page...some stepkids make it their life mission to sink a parent's new relationship...especially for the new wife.
if it bothers you so much...don't get married and find you a dude that is not 'certified used'.
2006-12-12 19:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by atlas shrugged and so do i 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face it, he was married before.
What difference does it make? It was a piece of paper. Would you have felt better if he would have just lived with her?
Good grief, find something meaningful to sweat about.
2006-12-12 19:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by maamu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he your first boyfriend?
are you a virgin?
if you answered no then maybe he shouldn't get over the fact that you didn't wait till marriage
2006-12-12 19:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by zether 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So why are you with him?
Find someone that has never been married.
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2006-12-12 19:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by masson589 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
end it and don't repeat this mistake again. find someone who meets your expectations and be sincere about what you want.
2006-12-12 19:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by Mom_of_two 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋