My husband parents lives in their own big home,they ve 4 cars and a boat and they gave to my husband a old pick up truck 1998 ford and they want him to pay for it 6000$.He gave them 2000 $ in cash,the rest it will be paid monthly for a sum of money of 186.20 .
My husband noticed that they cash the check the same day they get it. dont u think r they stingy? we just got married and we ve so many bills to pay...they should be more generous.dont u think so?
2006-12-12 18:57:54 · 8 answers · asked by manolaxox 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think the parents giving your husband the truck would be nice, but I don't think they are required to give it to him. Who knows? Maybe they are already giving him a good deal on the truck - after all, you know the history of it, all the repairs, etc, right? Seems like a good investment to me. A much better one than having to buy a brand new car, which is a poor investment if you're just starting out together.
Think about the money you will save by owning a $6000 truck that you know the repair history and has probably been taken care of. It sounds like it, if it is $6000 and it's a '98!
I agree with someone above who said it's an "entitlement complex" - I don't understand why he would be entitled to the truck for free, and I also think it should not be of your concern, since it's his and his parents' dealing. If you don't have to pay for it, you shouldn't worry about it. If it effects how much more YOU have to contribute to pay for the bills, then maybe you should discuss it with your husband more.
2006-12-12 19:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by DaveEngel1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in laws are just sticking with the original agreement made by your husband. I do not think that makes them stingy. If you think they are not doing you any favors try looking at a local car lot and see how stingy they can be. I think you would find that they are not being stingy at all. Besides haven't you heard the old saying give em an inch they take a mile? If they were to be too lenient you might end up taking advantage of them. ( not on purpose perhaps but all the same)
2006-12-12 19:07:56 · answer #2 · answered by Wenz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should never expect a "hand-out" or for charity from anybody, especially parents, BUT, the parents should naturally offer these things anyway, being the parents and all.
I think that they charged too much for the old pickup, and I think your husband is a food and idiot and trying to win love from his parents by buying it from them! He should've gone with you and bought through someone else and not even involve family in it. Now you guys are endebted to his parents and in their control because of it.
So, forget his obviously selfish and stingy parents, give back the truck, get your money back, and if they won't let you do that then take out a personal loan at a Credit Union and pay it off so that you guys are not tied to his parents anymore and then keep your distance.
Good luck with it! Please consider what I've said or your marriage could see some really bleak days in the future!
2006-12-12 19:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I think you are suffering from an 'entitlement complex'. Why do you feel you are entitled to more gifts than you got at the wedding and more free stuff than they have given him? If they wanted to give him the truck, it would be a great gift, but they are not required to do so just because you two have bills to pay. It would be nice, but maybe they can't afford it because they have to pay for that nice house, 4 cars and boat.
A gift should be given, not expected as a right. Sorry. I know how you feel, I've felt that way too, but I still think it is greedy to feel that way.
2006-12-12 19:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as the saying goes, don't mix business with family. It is best not to get tied up in any sort of debt with relatives as it is destined for failure. My advice would be to pay it off as soon as possible or get rid of it and get another one by yourself. I don't know anything about your husbands financial situation but perhaps they are this way for a reason that they are concerned about his abilities to pay for it. $186 is a relatively low amount and surely you can find a used car at a lower rate independently.
But a little advice. You shouldn't think negatively towards your in laws because now they are your family and even if family sometimes upsets us or gives us a hard time, it is important to have a happy life together. Especially if you have children one day. Best of luck.
2006-12-12 19:19:01 · answer #5 · answered by Mom_of_two 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rich people have one quality that poor people don't have: The ability to KEEP their money. You may not like that in them, but the way they are acting is protecting their money. Unwise generosity often leads rich people to the poor house.
2006-12-12 19:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think they earned their money just to give it to you
work for it if you want it
2006-12-12 19:10:29 · answer #8 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋