My husband just started working nights and I get nervous at times, I have insomnia anyhow and did have a stalker that died in a car wreck leaving my home, after not getting in. I also was sitting in my living room and a man kept whispering a dirty saying I thought it was my husband at the time playing a joke and I went to the bedroom and he was asleep, I thought he was outside the window. These two episodes has made me feel unsafe all my adult life. Do others do this or do you just jump in the bath and go to bed without a thought? My home is in a historical area of nice homes and some bad home, we are restoring ours, so I don't think its my area of town.
2006-12-12 18:48:53 · 13 answers · asked by livlafluv 4 in Health ➔ Women's Health
A dog is a good idea. Good lighting around your house, opaque curtains and adequate locks will also help you feel more secure. Also a flashlight and phone by your bed.
The link below gives some general suggestions for good sleep habits. It's very common for women to feel uncomfortable when you are used to having someone with you at night, but if you do what you can to feel more comfortable you will probably be more relaxed after a while.
2006-12-12 19:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by Coriander 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I had been married a little over a year when my husband had to leave town for six months. I was alone day and night. We lived way out in the country. One night I got a phone call from a guy that said he was right outside my house. I did not even want to look out the window, afraid I would actually see someone. I knew the guy from work and how he had got my number I was not sure because it was not in the phone book. He was on drugs and that scared me even more. I decided to go to New Mexico and see my husband for a couple of weeks to feel better, so I drove out to see him. He was working nights and staying in a small motel in Farmington. One night I got up to go to the bathroom and right when I set down to use it the windo started going up and I saw two hands coming in. I screamed and slammed the window shut on the person's hands. They jerked their hands back and left. After that I put a stick in the window and double checked the door to make sure it was locked. I tried to call my husband but could not get him so I laid there and watched tv the rest of the night. So I don't blame you for being scared I know where you are coming from.\
My husband still works nights now most of the time. So I am at home at night with our nine week old baby, just the two of us. I decided to get me a dog and He barks anytime anything is near our house. So try getting yourself a big dog that people would think is vicious. He does not really have to be though mine looks it but he ig very gentle. Pyraneese are good guard dogs to have. They are as big as a small horse but gentle as a lamb.
2006-12-13 10:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by sarah o 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I live in a historic home too and my husband has traveled a lot in the past, too, although luckily not so much anymore.
What helped for me is getting a large dog. My dog is a 70 pound dog, actually a really sweet dog. He's a shelter dog; a mix of lab, chow, and schnauzer and wouldn't hurt a flea because I have children. My friendly neighbors know the dog and love him, but occasionally a stranger comes through and you'll see they act terrified of my dog, and at first I felt bad, but then I realized it's probably a good security measure to have him around. My dh swears dogs are the best security defense you can have in a house.
And if my dog is quiet and sleeping next to me (he sleeps in my bed) then I figure there's no prowlers around because he would be barking like crazy if there were so he relieves my anxieties, too so I can get to sleep if my dh is on a trip. If you do decide to get a dog or are thinking about it; the website I used to find him was: http://www.petfinder.com/ which I would highly recommend to anyone looking for a pet!
Karen
2006-12-13 03:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by Karen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES YES YES Girl every 3 week my husband works mid nights I'm up from 11-6 when day light show then I'll go to sleep.I'm afraid of my own house.People around here think I'm a druggie.I'm not I 'm just up all through the night because I'm not going to sleep.The reason I'm like this my house was shot at cocktail thrown threw the window broke in to this was 4yrs ago not here put when i had my house staying alone.I cant get pass this.Like right now I'm up!must be something I can do .So yes when I hear people are scared of their own house I surely can relate!!!!!!
2006-12-13 04:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by lorraine B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, those are definitely justafiable reasons for being an insomniac.
I have trouble sleeping too, but not usually because my husband is at work... although I've had that happen too..
my suggestion: check that all the doors and windows to your home are sufficiently locked, and maybe get an alarm system.
once you know you are "safe" you should be able to sleep a little better. also, maybe just for a little while, maybe you can try calling your husband or having him call you right before you go to bed, sometimes hearing my husband's voice before I went to bed made me feel more at ease.
then again, I also take prescription drugs to help me sleep and sometimes for anxiety too.
I usually try reading a book to help me relax before going to sleep.
good luck!
2006-12-13 02:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by Elaine T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I won't be silly enough to ask you what town, however, if you have suspicions then I would call the non-emergency number of the police department and ask if they would cruise by once in awhile. Let them know you are very serious about your request and fill them in on the details. Then...get yourself a Rottweiler for protection.
Several years ago, there was a peeping tom in our neighborhood and I was the one who saw him peering into our living room window. He sure scared the b.g's out of me. So I called the police and they caught him about a block away. The guy was on foot.
2006-12-13 02:54:31 · answer #6 · answered by chole_24 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My God, I get scared all the time at night, and can't stand when I have to be alone (and I've never even had those weird things happen to me)..
Is there any way your husband could get a day job?
Good luck, I don't know what to say, 'coz I'm the biggest sissy around (at night -- when I'm all alone)..!!
2006-12-13 02:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by seaofcolour 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. It may get scared at the frist time,but you will be familiar with the situation gradually, being alone sometimes is good,you can do anything you like, but make sure to lock your door and window firstly.
2006-12-13 03:01:59 · answer #8 · answered by smarttany 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you like pets, you could get a big (but cuddly) dog. this would give you a feeling of protection, as well as a friend. if that doesnt work (or you dont want a dog) then install a security system in your home.
2006-12-13 02:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by a 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dude ur house is haunted. its common occurance for ghost to be arroused when contstruction is going on at their local favorite spot. umm thats pretty cool that ur stalker got killed! well im not a woman obviously but i know u guys get scared and paranoid
2006-12-13 02:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by akihabro 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋