If men feel like they can say whether or not they like it, and even are open enough to say why they don't, and hence giving their girlfriend some huge complex, then WHY should women be made to do it on a regular basis? It is only maybe 4 out of 10 times I do it to my husband that I want to do it, mostly I feel obligated to do it because he wants it and acts like he'll die if he doesn't get it. Why are men entitled to it and why is it a privilege for women? This is totall bunk if you ask me, and I've been told if I could bottle em and sell em I'd be a millionaire, and judging from different reactions over the last 15 years, I'd have to say thats about right. So whats the big deal?
2006-12-12 18:42:33 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
PS I love giving it after I get into it because I get a kick out of the pleasure he gets from it.
2006-12-12 18:52:51 · update #1
PS I love giving it after I get into it because I get a kick out of the pleasure he gets from it.
2006-12-12 18:52:54 · update #2
Actually, in my relationship it is the other way around. My advice is this, he has to give if he wants to receive. Period. You are not obligated in any way to give him a bj. If he doesn't want to return the favor, tell him you have a toothache. Stick to your guns. I guarantee, he won't last, especially if he pouts like a big old baby when he doesn't get it now. When he does cave, make him service you first, though. That way he doesn't spend 2 minutes on you after you've spent 20 on him. If he goes first and spends 2 minutes on you, spend half that on him. It may seem harsh and unfair, but you will get your point across. I do agree that in many relationships there is a double standard regarding oral pleasure.Was the case in some of my past relationships.These almost always worked for me.
2006-12-12 19:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart I have no clue in that question. I have an idea though. It sounds like hubby wants head all the time but does not reciprocate. OK.
Simple plan here: Turn his lazy as$ around in a sixty-nine and the two of you go to town.
Plan B- Let him know that he has to give to receive because you enjoy it just as much.
2006-12-12 18:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by Belize69 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
some women want to please their man and enjoy doing what their man wants. Some women actually love it.
Need to stop letting him expect it and take control yourself, surprise him or sex play.
Other than that, men just love it. Guess we need to have a penis to understand why that is. It is a big deal to them. some more than others. Every man has their LIKES!!
Personally, I read to keep up with the WHY's of men in the bedroom.
2006-12-12 18:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by strong1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try telling him how you feel about it. When u feel obligated to do something you dont want it makes you feel like chit and its very degrading. I used to feel that way until i told my husband how he made me feel and now i do it alot more often because he doesnt nag about it or makes me feel like i have to do it.
Tell him its a 2 way street he gets it, if u get some too.
2006-12-12 18:54:50 · answer #4 · answered by gonzalezleon3022 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are skyehigh to write that!!...lol Just kidding
no seriously..I feel that (trying to be coded for G rating) doing this is fine, mutually..I seriously thought (in my experience) it was the other way around..men love to do the deed and woman loved to get it, but men getting it is far and in between.(to finish up that way)
Now..I dont mind doing it..my husband love to do that to me (gawd i am trying to keep this G) BUT...we spend about 5-10 min on each other..a time limit..so no ones jaw hurts for days..lol
I bet..if you had a time limit..there woudnt be obligation to finish up that way..find some other way..
2006-12-12 18:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not understanding you. I love giving it. Love getting it too.
Analingus is a different story though.
2006-12-12 18:49:11 · answer #6 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women should please eachother in this way as often as they both wish. This is a wonderful pleasure to give to your spouse.
2006-12-13 06:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but l totally disagree !! My husband enjoys pleasing me more and l am quite happy to let him do that !! Certainly no complaints here, but l do try to be fair about it sometimes. Honestly, l do really haha sometimes !!!
2006-12-12 19:05:17 · answer #8 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
can't tell you...i never made my ex-wife (or ex gf's) do it...if they did, it was because they wanted to. i also enjoyed (and still enjoy) giving, but only if they were/are ok with it..
you make a good point though..
2006-12-12 18:47:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Sky,,,,
Hmmm,, personally , i feel that what goes around comes around.. and too bad for you that we arent married...
good luck
2006-12-12 18:48:37 · answer #10 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋