on july 28th 2005 my only best friend was murdered by some punk. oh man i wanted to find this guy so bad before the police did.. i had so much hate in me. i didnt want to talk to anyone or do anything.except find his killer... well the details are gross. but to make it short and sweet.. he was hit in the back of the head with a log, then his throat was cut from his right ear to his adams apple. and then thrown in a lake. why? every one wants to know why.. over 1 can of busch beer. the guy wanted a beer my friend said he only had 1 left but had already opened it. he was killed cause he opened the last beer.there was 6 people there counting my friend and none of the other people stop it . they just watched it happen. so now i just set at home and wounder what i am going to do or whats next in my life. i miss my friend...
2006-12-12 18:36:23 · 11 answers · asked by i am no 1 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Rom 12:19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
Rom 12:20 Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.
Rom 12:21 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.
Life is unfair, but someday soon we that are saved will be treated better than any can believe.
just dont let one bad even chain reaction to another. God can take your heart and make it free, just believe
2006-12-12 18:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by army_redneck_daddy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've got a lot of (justifiable) anger and pain inside you. You need to talk to someone about it, preferably a therapist.
What happened to your friend was horrible and unfair, and nothing will change that. If there were four other people there, then there are four people who can testify and see his murderer is convicted. It would have been better if those people could have stopped it, but from what you say they may have been so shocked that by the time they thought to react it was too late.
You can't let yourself just sit at home and give up on living. That would be the worst possible thing you could do to honor your friend's memory. Reach out and get some help, and find a way to be happy again. Your friend wouldn't want you to waste your own life because he didn't get a chance to finish with his.
2006-12-12 18:48:11 · answer #2 · answered by triviatm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand you miss your friend. That's natural. I'm sure he was a great friend and a good person. This being said, I bet he wouldn't want you to put yourself in danger on his account. The best thing you can do to honor his memory is tell the police everything you know about it, and then testify at the murderer's trial. That's all your friend would expect of you. As far as your own peace of mind, a clergyman or a grief counselor might be able to help you work through these feelings you have. I wish you success and peace.
2006-12-12 18:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you and your friend. And there are no words of comfort to make up for the loss. This is a senseless, horrendous crime but you becoming violent will only make matters worse for you. You may have some satisfaction but it will be short-lived. Forgiveness is your goal and don't be surprised if that takes the rest of your life. I still work on forgiveness 44 years after the fact.
I wish you love and harmony towards your goal, but most of all I wish you peace for your soul.
Peace.
2006-12-12 18:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear this, my heart goes out to you and all those who mourn his death. As hard as at may seem to do you have to forgive the person who murdered him, by doing this you'll bring peace to your mind. I've been through something like this in 2004. My friend beat another friend in the head repeatedly with an aluminum bat, for reasons more complicating than I have time to explain. Once again I am truly sorry!
2006-12-12 18:44:46 · answer #5 · answered by SuperSkinny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my question is this how do you know everything that went on was you there also? if you wasn't then i would try to honor your friend by being strong and help the police find the guy if he hasn't been found. just don't kill him. that would be 2 murders for nothing. now i know this sounds cold hearted but . go find the guy turn him in. stay far enough away so your safe he may try to kill you too... i am so for your loss. may god bless you. and your friend.
2006-12-12 19:23:59 · answer #6 · answered by help me! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our society is all messed up. I can understand your anger over this and I am deeply sorry for your loss.
I work with many who have been abused and one common factor I have found in those who do things such as the one that murdered your friend is fatherless homes. Our society is producing them in record numbers and we are all suffering for this. At this time of year, I often talk to many men who know that once again, the presents they send to their children will be returned unopened as they know their children will be told yet again that daddy does not love you....he did not send you anything.
When children grow up thinking that no one cares for them, they will often not treasure life...theirs or anyone Else's.
My friend, I am also concerned about your id..."i am no one"
You are important to me...and most of all, to my best friend.
When your life is shattered....He can put it back together again,
http://www.shatterdmen.com/Humpty%20Dumpty.htm
2006-12-12 18:47:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so sorry to hear that from you... i exrend my deepest sympathy with you and your best friend. well i guess the best thing you would gonna do is to lift it up to our Almighty creator. vengeance would be His... just hope and pray that that case will be solved in due time.. don't stock yourself seeking for vengeance for you're making another mistake... also you can help solve the crime by helping or cooperating with the police by giving informations / testifications...
cheer up! you can still find another special friend/s ahead of your life... socialize with your family, neighbors or other fellows, worship or go to mass, and soon maybe there you can find peace and forgiveness w/in your heart which could lead you to a new and wonderful world of life..
best wishes ...
2006-12-12 19:02:54 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifrer C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry that it happened to ur best friend. But life goes on, and i am so sure that ur buddy doesnt want u to sit at home day and night.......
2006-12-12 18:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by winny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heckuva story, dont see why it would be hard to find the perpetrator. You mourn like everyone else mourns, in stages, at your own rate.
2006-12-12 18:38:56 · answer #10 · answered by David B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋