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I was thinking of keeping my last name and adding his on-- but when we have kids i just want them to have his last name -- i don't want them to deal with having a HUGE last name. I don't know what is best -- I feel like everything i have done so far has been under my name -- plus i am the only one left in the family with our last name -- what are the options - what did you do? I know i want to have the same last name as my hubby and kids - but i don't want to completely give mine up!

thanks!

2006-12-12 18:33:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

9 answers

Whatever you do, please don't hyphenate. It is so annoying. I know a lot of women who simply use both names (their first and last names followed by his) without the hyphen, and then the children have his last name.

2006-12-12 18:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0 1

It is not as hard as some people make it sound to change your name. I decided to take my husband's name and not use my maiden name anymore. However, right before we got married my husband changed his last name, to carry on his mother's maiden name because he to is the last one able to do so.

It is ok to want to hyphenate your name and actually becoming much more popular. As for naming the kids, they don't have to have both names. If you are worried about losing some of your identity if you ditch your last name, you don't. Depending on what it is you could make it the middle name of one of your kids or maybe like my husband, one of them will carry it on for you.

But it really comes down to what you are comfortable with and what you like because you are the one that is going to live with the decision. Good luck

2006-12-13 02:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by aliandsean@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0 0

There is no need to change your last name. You continue having your maiden last name. Now a days very few people change it. All the certificates bear the maiden last name. It becomes easy for identification proof specially for passport. It also feels good to keep the identity of family you come from.Your children can write your husbands last name.

2006-12-13 02:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by rams 4 · 1 0

Stick with your instinct...keep your name, and add his, then give his to the kids. I wanted to do that, but I went the traditional route, and took my husband's name. I regret it. Plus, it's just a pain in the but to change names. At least if its hyphenated, people won't get as confused. Hope this helps.

2006-12-18 11:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by bear 1 · 0 0

Recently being married myself and wanting to keep my last name I dropped my middle name and hyphenated my last name first then his. I wasnt willing to give my last name up either, its a big part of who I am.

2006-12-13 02:36:30 · answer #5 · answered by nurse33 3 · 0 0

You can hyphenate it. Not everyone will call you by your hyphenated name people will shorten it. But your kids will still have the same last name that's fine.

2006-12-13 02:36:59 · answer #6 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0 0

If you are established professionally under your present name, it makes sense to keep it. But most people don't fit that description, so you could change it. Other responses to this are sensible.

2006-12-13 02:39:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I wouldnt worry about it..

My middle name is a family surname on my birth certificate..

I lived with it no issues..

2006-12-13 02:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0 0

to hypenate looks like your not really sure you want to be married. don't hypenate take his name it shows that you love him.

2006-12-13 02:43:09 · answer #9 · answered by k2u 1 · 0 1

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