There is something weird about me. This is sort of deep.. Normally people have social issues with people they don't know very well. But i have issues keeping close relationships...here's what happens: I get a friend, we find stuff to talk about and we have fun. Then after say, 6 months or so we don't care that much about putting up alot of effort to have conversations. THen lack of communication leads to resentment, then the relationship goes sour. Jeez, what is wrong with me? How can i KEEP a relationship going and not get bored?
2006-12-12 18:26:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Oh my gosh, s_k_wilson...You made me realize what i may be doing wrong in my relationships. I think you might be right, i haven't been thinking about the other person, i have been thinking about myself. I have been self-centered. Wilson thank you for giving me a good kick in the @**.
2006-12-12 18:48:34 · update #1
Yup i know just what you mean. Sometime i feel closer to my dogs then to the woman i have been with for ten years. I have this disconnect a lot of the time, i feel like i don't belong and that the world doesn't like me at all. I am very odd and displaced at times because i am so introverted, but don't give up keep trying and smile because otherwise you will cry.
2006-12-12 18:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by sincity usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are into you (self-centered). If you want a lasting relationship you have to put the other person first and you have to be committed through thick and thin. All relationships go through bumps but you have to be willing to work through and over those bumps with the knowledge that you are in this for the long haul.
2006-12-13 02:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by s_k_wilson1990 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st, try to see all of the possible reason why do ur relationship w/ others failed so fast? u said: "we don't care that much about putting up alot of effort to have conversation". perhaps it just happen that both of u are not so much interested w/ each other. try to have friends w/ others 'til u found the right one for u - that both of u are so much interested w/ each other so u keep the communication going.
2006-12-13 02:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_MJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not weird! You just have not met the right person. Relationships can not be forced or pressured to work. They have to happen spontaneously. Smile more, love life, and appreciate all the people in your life right now. Also, talking with God creates good Karma!
2006-12-13 02:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by KCman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u depend too much on the friend or put too much weight on the friendship. Always try to look how much u can put into a relationship rather than what u can take from it. This may help.
2006-12-13 02:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by Nats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give the person space after while. maybe you are just going your separate ways. there is no reason to resent them...just let them go...then after awhile you can wonder what happened to them and call them up and have all new things to talk about again.
2006-12-13 02:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may find good points or sthg else to make your relationship positive.
But I think if you want to keep it going, you yourself will easily find the best way!.
If not, then there many others waiting award.
Good luck.
2006-12-13 02:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by Kuynh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both participants are responsible for efforts to keep relationships going. Explore this with past failures and see if its all you or all them or both. if its all then you do have trouble.
2006-12-13 02:30:12 · answer #8 · answered by David B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be creative..do a lot of things together you'll never forget and you're sure you're gonna when you're apart..then give some space so that you'll have time to miss that person..and you'll long for that person and wouldn't want to let go..
goodluck..enjoy life!!!
2006-12-13 02:40:15 · answer #9 · answered by kc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not trying hard enough?
2006-12-13 08:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋