I was just wondering what other people thought about that because I don't see the point in getting married if you are going to cheat on a person, and I say that it is never OK, but my friend argued with me and says that there are cases when it is OK.
2006-12-12 18:25:59 · 27 answers · asked by waltinaw74 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, first of all, I don't think it's 'okay' to commit adultery. I don't see how anyone would agree to it being okay, because there is no point in getting married, when the vows you exchange must mean something.
Your 'friend' is as smart as a bag of nails, and those kinds of people are the ones who get hurt in the end. What goes around, comes around, and quite frankly, what other people do in their own relationship, is based on trust, honesty and love. Everyone makes a choice, and if that's what some people feel (that it's okay to commit adultery) then they need to do some work on themselves, and have someone cuff them upside their head!!
In case you are unaware of the dangers out there, it's quite possible that STD's are lurking in the shadows of those who stray from their spouse, and into the arms of another person!! It's a crazy world out there, and with the high percentage of divorces in the world, I'm amazed at the thought of certain people even CONSIDERING marriage, when they're not fully committed to the ones they're with!! It's insane!!
I say "Stay away from Marriage, altogether!" If living with someone, under Common-Law, then you're much safer, in the end, but that's only financially (divorces aren't cheap).
But on the other hand, being Common-Law, and still messing around, on the side, won't get you any healthier, mentally or physically!! STD's are everywhere!!.....OUCH...
2006-12-12 18:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by argamedius 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Surprisingly, I actually read all that. Word for word, too. So I'd like to point out that you reap what you sow. Read over these two parts again and you'll understand why you're in the situation you're in: 1. I married a man with a 6-figure income and possibly only because he makes a 6-figure income. 2. He's 'carrying on' like a single person. (Note: Read this one carefully and reread it a few times, it might hit you why BOTH of you are incapable of being faithful to yourselves and future mates, of which there will be many.) He's buying you off because though you're secure, you have no self worth. That said, you can leave him if you like (I really don't care either way because I know where you'll end up no matter what decision you make), but I'd suggest what an attorney would to you: have a few more kids with him, and then divorce him. ~40% or so of this idiot's monthly income doesn't look too shabby, and it's a guaranteed payment. You'd hurt him and at the same time be able to provide somewhat nicely for yourself before remarrying again. I'd say this is like winning the lottery for you. Jackpot, your mom was right about this one.
2016-05-23 17:11:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...Well if the other person has cheated on you, and they tell u about it I believe it is up to the other person if they feel they need to get revenge on the person cheating, but no it is never okay someone always ends up getting hurt in the end. Then noone really feels better jus gettin a different nut from someone else. IF that happens they both have cheated then its up to them to decide if they want to stay together. Most times they wontt cause theres no TRUST! With out that u might as well be bye yourself cause its jus not worth it any more. IF your married then you made a damn mistake, and wasted your time. Always take careful consideration on if your really ready to get married before taking them vows thats whats wrong with ppl today always in a rush for things. Get to know the person, live with them for 5yrs then make the decision, and if you happen to have a baby doesnt mean u have to be married, or because uve already been together for 10 years sometimes ppl are better off jus being bf/gf
2006-12-12 18:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating on a spous is a selfish act and deserves what comes with it. Remember everything in life is about choice. One can choose to do whatever you like but with every choice there is a consequence. A good choice reaps the positive and a bad choice reaps the negative.
For some reason men and women reaching their 40's to 50's have an identity crisis and this is where they stumble and fall. If you choose a child of God to be your partner, you can never go wrong, because God instructs you to rather swim upstream rather than take the stream and follow the crowd over the waterfall.
I would not fear, because that is where satan operates and he will do anything to cheat you out of what can be a wonderful future.
People who lack confidence fear things. A confident person overides feelings of fear and rather steps out and takes action and even if you make a mistake, you just rise above it and continue. You trust God to guide you and help you along the way and that works. You dont follow people or even wish for what they have or try to be like them. God made you to be you, so what you have to do is find you and just be you. You dont marry to change someone either, there is the old story told of the bride who enters the church and the first thing she sees is the aisle then she sees the altar and then she sees him. Do you get it aisle alter him "I'LL ALTER HIM" That is a big mistake to make. You take the person as he or she is and live with them warts and all! Accept people for who they are and what they are. No one is perfect and least of all ourselves. There is no perfect person. Not even a pastor is perfect. The bible says we all sin and fall short of the glory of God. Ouch!
So my darling to fear your future is merely listening to the wrong voice. You take the man you love and you marry him and love him and respect him and treat him like a king no matter. Moods will happen and things might go wrong financially now and then, but remeber every trial is a refining lesson. If you are wise from the word go you will ask yourself: "WHat can I learn from this!" Be peaceful and mature about everything you do and choose. Dont act by emotion. Emotions lie to you. Be level headed.
And there is nothing wrong with this question either. Its good you asked.
Merry Christmas my girl and may all your dreams come true, but most of all seek God while he may be found!
God richly bless you and your future!
2006-12-12 19:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it's ever ok to cheat on a spouse. the only exception to this would be in a case where the couple is seperated, but still married and they end up dating others, but that's not really cheating in my book because they are both seperated and no longer want to continue the marriage. i can see how some religous folks might disagree with this point though.
2006-12-12 18:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by Wink 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never okay. Some may say, if the other spouse is cheating then revenge is okay. Still no... you should get divorced.
Only grounds for divorce is abuse and infidelity, and no reason for cheating is what I personally believe.
Wow! I'm suprised how many people(primarily women) have answered that it's never okay. I think this is a first for me to see here on Yahoo Answers. Provides hope.
2006-12-12 18:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by Nep 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not okay and we all know why so I'm not gonna repeat it.
As open-minded as I am, I still don't see what those "CASES" are that make it okay for married ppl to cheat. I mean, say, someone has an abusive spouse, she or he can leave that marriage before moving on.
Or some may have a commitment problem and in this case, don't get married. That's why I'm still dating because I am still uncertain.
2006-12-12 18:29:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
whether in a marriage or just a relationship, i believe cheating is never ok. doesnt matter whether the relationship or marriage is lacking something, couples should communicate their feeling to one another before things get out of hand. If cheating is going to take place, separate,no point in being together if people gonna cheat. makes no sense in getting married or being together.
2006-12-12 18:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by gonzalezleon3022 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say it is NEVER ok. I agree with you there would be no point in getting married if you are going to cheat.
2006-12-12 18:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by Wenz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what they think is not important. what do you think? it all boils down to your own values system. even if a million people would say it's not OK but you firmly believe, as per your values, that it is otherwise then what you believe in will be your truth.
logically speaking, the word cheating itself already means a NO-NO. So, you can't put together a negative action into the sanctity of marraige.
2006-12-12 18:31:00 · answer #10 · answered by nomamalin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋