friend wants out of marriage. wife makes no time for him anymore. wants to be more than just parents and spouses. she has not been interested in sex for years, he is faithful but misses the intimacy.he is not looking for an easy out, but wants answers.
2006-12-12 17:55:35 · 18 answers · asked by atlas shrugged and so do i 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sound to me that they don't even talk to one another if you don't have communication then you don't have a marriage. Tell your friend to try counseling if he wants to fix the problem. Maybe she is depressed about something has anything in the past not been resolved in her life? How long have they been married? do they have kids, if they do how old are they. There are a lot of bearables to consider to get to the end of a situation. Why hasn't he just sat her down and told her how he feels? Maybe a third party could help them talk to one another. It's were I'd start. And if your both of their friends and you have a close relationship with them maybe you can get the ball rolling by having them over for dinner. Just start the conversation with I feel that you guy's are missing one another and I see that you care for each other why don't you guy's tell each other just what is on your mind. But if your just his Friend I'd stay out of it. Because she'll feel like your sticking your nose were it doesn't belong. Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-12-12 18:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by De_BlueEyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why isn't he the one asking the questions and when you say best friend what kind male or female.Unless you live in the same house as your friend you really don't no the whole truth only his version.Every man after a few years of marriage feels unloved and lonely so instead of talking to his wife he opens up to another female abouts his so called problems.It sounds like your friend is just being selfish only thinking of his happiness.He doesn't can what it will do to his wife and kids if he has any and in this case I sure hope not. As long as he is happy and getting all the attention that's all he cares about.
2006-12-12 19:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all YOU stay out of this.
Secondly why does he not have a heart-to-heart talk with his wife or seek a marriage counselor? Seeking divorce or having one-night stands is just another form of irrational and emotional escape from reality and respnsibility.
And finally read the following from the holy Quran:
[Chapter 4: Women]
9 O ye who believe! Ye are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should ye treat them with harshness, that ye may Take away part of the dower ye have given them,-except where they have been guilty of open lewdness; on the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good.
Note specially the last lines.....
2006-12-12 18:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like they ought to search Chrisian council. Obviously they had been in love at a few factor or they would not be married. Something needed to have occurred alongside the best way that they simply ought to get labored out. Marriage is so a lot more than bodily appeal. Get the leisure in line and the appeal will go back.
2016-09-03 16:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should try marriage counseling first. If that doesn't work I don't know what else he can do. I don't advocate divorce usually, but I have seen cases where a woman just totally cuts the husband out of the equation. Good luck to your friend. Hope he finds happiness soon.
2006-12-12 17:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want answer or advise?
Why wife makes no time? does he know the real reason?
Communicate with the wife is very important in marriage.
Perspective might be different but remember the vow both of them took that day they get married to remind himself about looking for a way out.
Btw, If the reason is taking care of the children I roughly can understand, ask him to try it himself for 1 weekend.
2006-12-12 18:16:53 · answer #6 · answered by electricgold2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, Sorry to hear this. It sounds abusive. I suppose if there are kids involved staying in the marraige is the right thing, be her friend, having kids comes first.... Really I believe man and wife comes first, being there for one another, then the kids. I would seek counseling for the both of you, try to discover the underling reasons for this problem. If she has cheated divorce her.
2006-12-12 18:08:46 · answer #7 · answered by AA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if this is your friend's marriage it is none of your business what he does in it. All you can do is be there for him and let him talk to you. You could do some research and find a good marriage counselor in his area and give him the number. Let him work it out from there.
2006-12-12 18:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by Wenz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this really a 'friend' in need, or 'you' that you're talking about?
anyway...you need to let your 'friend' work this out with his wife and they need to see a marriage counsellor!
there's not much you can do but support him on this.
if this is coming from 'you', then maybe it's time to start communicating more with the wife.
2006-12-12 17:59:05 · answer #9 · answered by argamedius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is YOUR answer, stay out of it and don't get involved. You'll only make things worse and regret it. Let them sort it out, even though you say the wife isn't aware there is something to sort out.
2006-12-12 17:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋